Do you ever catch yourself saying, “I wish something would go right for a change..”
Or find yourself in lose-lose situations? ‘Why do this keep happening to me?’
I found myself in a defeated mindset this past week after multiple situations were stacking against me. Issues with finances and some no’s I was expecting to be yes’s.
I was tired too, work-lagged from a lot of exciting events happening at Pass It Down, Paul Cummings Enterprises and 60Watts.
A defeated mindset is not what a Renaissance Life is about.
I keep coming back to the idea that winners keep getting back up. They don’t shy away from failure; They see failure as part of the process of success.
This is the ideal state we want to be in. All it takes is the right mindset.
A winner is a winner all the time because they have a ‘keep pursuing’ mindset. They’re going to lose, and probably lose a lot (because they take more risks), but they always get back up. That’s who they are.
A loser loses all the time because they have a ‘give up’ mindset. ‘Oh this sucks, I guess I’ll stop while I still ahead’. When a loser loses, they expected it (and ultimately created that reality). And when a loser wins they think ‘it’s too good to be true’ and self-sabotage.
The question is, how do we Win no matter what we are going through?
Count Your Wins.
One small thing yet life changing thing we can do is count our wins.
It’s easy to lose out on the good things around you, when the bad ones keep slapping you in the face. At the end of a day are you counting your loses or your wins? Our minds tend to bend towards the bad things that happen to us. If one-hundred great wins happen, one lose can completely wash it all away.
By actively counting what goes right each day, you can prevent any negatives from taking over.
Stack your wins.
Where they are small wins, silly wins, big wins or stretch wins, they all count towards a meaningful day.
Did you make your bed? Win!
Did you complement some one today? Win!
Did you NOT have a piece of cake? Win!
Did you do something towards your dreams? Mega Win!
Any time you have a setback or loss, learn from it, and move on. Never count your losses. Only wins baby.
Think of this as a number-lovers version of Tim Ferriss’s Jar of Awesome, or Tony Robbins 3 gratitudes. (In fact I like to do all three. Win Win Win!)
In the morning, write out three things you are grateful for.
When something good happens, write it down on a piece of paper and place it in your jar of awesome.
And count how many wins you have each day (Remember, even one small win means your day was a success)
There’s nothing sweeter than seeing your win count stack up.
All of this might sound absurd to you, but this is how you develop a winners mindset.
When we stop dwelling on the things that go wrong, might go wrong, misfortunes and things out of our control, the more we can focus on succeeding and living a life true to ourselves.
— Josh Waggoner
Ryan Holiday circa 2007: Self-Fulfilling Prophecy:
‘The only real thing separating the winners from the losers is if they get back up. Am I going to appreciate these events for their extreme improbability or am I going to delude myself into thinking I am cursed forever?’
‘Risk can lead to total failure but cautiousness just the absence of success.’
‘So I didn’t quit.’
‘there is a difference between accepting responsibility and burdening yourself with blame.’
“Winners never quit and quitters never win.” — Vince Lombardi
“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” — Confucius