Boundaries

Gabriella and I recently discussed the idea of becoming Life Coaches, so I removed my stubborn shades I was wearing and asked her to help tame my chaos. (which sounds ironic, but coaching isn’t about having a perfect life and pushing that life onto others; Coaching is helping others ask the right questions that will help them come to the answers they already know.)

Lucky me, I have an incredible companion who was willing to help. 

I had priority of mind, but no structure. I had the big goals, but they were pulling me underwater, drowning me.

She divided each of my priorities into there own sections, labeling them from A to J (Important goals desired)

I was only allowed to focus on two letters a day. (Three at most if I was feeling perky) (Attention Limitation)

With each section, there’s a square of block you can fill in once you’ve completed something within that priorities domain (such as write book.) (Progress Dopamine)

I was to report back each night on what I did and my progress to her. (Accountability)

Each priority was something I was already doing, but I was usually trying to do all of them every day (cue insanity). This was less about me starting the day with a city-wide todo list, and more like todos popping up and me giving into the tangents making things harder to finish.

The goal in mind was to be ahead of my creativity, rather than flying by the seat of my pants each day.

When you find your why(s), you should go after them with all that you have and then some. However, dreams can easily become nightmares without the properly defined boundaries to stay in.

Boundaries aren’t restrictions on your art, rather how you create the freedom you seek. They narrow your focus, enabling you to flourish within them. Freedom comes from less, not more.

Think of Netflix as an analogy.
If you have a small get together and say, ‘hey let’s watch something!’ 

Two hours later…

You’ve spent more time scrolling through the catalog than watching a josh darn movie. Rather, If you had said, ‘Let’s watch a Wes Anderson movie!’ maybe you would be enjoying The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou right now,? Instead of losing your mind.

Less is better.

Boundaries give you fewer options and small circles to master. 
Once you master those, then you can elevate your freedom by redefining your focus into bigger and bigger circles.

Stay BOLD, Keep Pursing,

— Josh Waggoner

Daily Focus on Your Vision

If you’re like me, you have all these big aspirational goals and visions in your head of what you want your life to be.

These goals are clear-cut and motivating on paper. Buuuuut then life happens. Responsibilities, commitments, debt.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have the freedom and flexibility yet to build a writing cabin in the woods so I can write my novel.

I have to find ways to do it in between two full-time jobs, time spent with loved ones, and a side business.

Things come up. Some of them truly important, others that feel important at the time. Everything and everyone around is vying for your attention and energy. So there your vision of the future sits, in dream status. 

How many dreams of a better tomorrow exist only in people’s heads?

But if you are reading this, I know you have a desire to be more. You want to make change in, not only yourself, but the world.

You here the phrase, ‘life is a marathon, not a sprint’ but that leaves an important piece out:
Life is a marathon where at the finish line, you die. Morbid, I know, but vital. (Pun intended)

We can’t just jog our way through life. 

Sure, we are making progress and doing important things, but are we giving it our all on what’s important to us?

Vision is longterm thinking, but lived on a daily basis.

Vision is not fixed. Your future desires can change and improve as you grow and expand into a better person.

Here’s how:

Write and Read your goals everyday

Keeping your vision in your mind will paint how you see the world. Everything you do will be viewed through the lense of how to make your goals happen. Opportunities and ideas will be abundant.

Hone your vision by honing yourself

Read. A lot. Learn from people if different circumstances and walks of life from you. Study the greats. Craft your vision of your future around what has worked for others before.

Make small, yet bold moves towards that future every day.

We make think on our past experience and have our thoughts towards a better tomorrow, but the vision of what can be happens in the actions of our today. What we do in the present not only defines how we feel about our past going forward, but creates the future we all desire. I’ve said it a million times, and will say it a million more until everyone in the universe hears it — Small action leads to big change. Take bold moves towards your future every opportunity you can today.

Whatever obstacles and pain you’ve faced in the past, your future is determined but what you do in this very moment. You have the opportunity to write your own story.

Remember, dreams don’t just happen, they are made. And ‘future’ ‘vision’ are words that elicit powerful emotions and motivations, but your future lies in your today. Getting things right today and the next today, compounds into a life where your vision is a reality.

Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

Inspiration +

Ryan Holiday, 2007 The Business of Running:

“You run to define yourself, and when you allow a short term challenge to alter your pace and long term strategy, you’ve just been defined by someone else.”

‘I Can Do That’

Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I can do that” when you see greatness on display?

(Write a book? I could totally do that… NFL? Psh move over Manning..)

I’ll make jokes about it sometimes, but other times I’m serious. I desire what they have. I want to be that good at writing, speaking, singing or whatever it may be.

That idea got me thinking.

What’s the difference between someone saying I can do that, versus someone saying it and doing it?

 

walking the walk  

Developing strategies of self-awareness will help guide you down the road you truly want to go, instead of the one you think you want to go.

The first thing we need to do is ask ourselves, “Is this right for me?”

“Is this right for me?”

Is this something I really want and value for myself and those around me? Or is this simply jealousy or flight of fancy?

The second thing to be aware of is compatibility. “Is this right for me right now?”

Does this goal work with my life? Does this goal align with my other goals and the goals of those closest to me?

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“Is this right for me right now?”

Once you know you’re in it to win it, there are three tips I can think of to push you into action:

  1. Having some idea of what your getting into
  2. Knowing where you’ll end up if you stick with it
  3. Leaping into it immediately.

There’s always going to be a beginner mode (aka suck fest) where you be laughably bad at it. (Whatever *it* is for you)

By getting real with yourself and acknowledging that, you won’t see the flaws when you fail, you’ll see ways you can improve.

And if you know what consistency will lead to — how your life will change if you compared to where you are if you actually do this — you will see the value in taking action. Your mind and what you need to do will be clear. 

With a sound perspective on your start and the possibilities of the finish, you are ready.

All that’s left is stepping out into the fear. The longer you wait the harder it will be and the more likely you’ll hold it off indefinitely. Leap.

When you decide to do something, take an immediate step towards your dream. 

After that, it’s all about belief. ‘Believe that you can and you’re halfway there.’

No one stumbles upon greatness.

Point me to anyone who has achieved what they desire without having belief in themselves that they could make it happen. No — that they will make it happen.

Believe in yourself josh d 🐞mn it.

Inspiration:
Ryan Holiday: 2007 SEPT. https://ryanholiday.net/ryanholiday-net/

“I can do that.” … I bet there are at least a thousand other people that felt the same way. I have seen their applications. But I went out and did it. Almost everything I have done in the last 4 years was in some way connected to making that a reality. It wasn’t “I can do that now” or “I deserve that today” but that it was within my range. And so I made it happen.

Birthday Resolutions (Gold Star Goals)

Happy New Year

Yesterday was my 27th birthday.
(If life was Game of Thrones, it would have been my 27th Name Day)

For the past few years, I like to make my yearly goals on my birthday instead of the new year.

27 goals for my 27th year. (You’re crazy josh — you bet your 🌜ss I am)

Reflecting on What Was

2015 and 2016 were the best-worst years of my life. I feel like I hit rock bottom in more ways than one. (Finances, Health, Relationships, Energy.. I will be writing in-depth stories about these.) And as stupid as it sounds, I wouldn’t change a thing. (I know I said this in a previous post, as I’m reflecting on my past year, I think it’s good to reiterate important turning points in your life.)

My setbacks have realigned me to my mission of a Renaissance Life. (aka eat more chocolate) They’ve also given me the gift of humility, and the forethought of knowing what’s really important to me or not. (chocolate ✔️; everything else.. ?)

In 2015, the world was telling me no, and that came to it’s crescendo in early 2016.

Conscious or not, right then and there I decided to say yes to every opportunity that came my way. And I am not disappointed by that choice.

When the world says No, It’s Time to say Yes +

 

Deciding on What Is

In 2017 will be the year of experience. I am going to try new things (different kinds of chocolate?), get into my discomfort zone, make BOLD Moves and experiment my way towards my goals.

Tangent: I am going to leave room for my goals to flex and change. (This hits one of the larger issues with New Year’s Resolutions by the way. We have this fixed ideas of who we want to be, but real life is not fixed. One goal today, could be irrelevant tomorrow. The key is knowing the underlying theme’s of what matters to you.) I want to challenge myself and see what I’m capable of, see what I can become.

I’m also not kidding myself in thinking I can do all of this at once (it’s not going to happen). Try and do everything and you eventually overwhelm yourself into doing nothing. 

This year, I’m going back to elementary school (baby)! Each goal has a gold star value. Each goal will have a certain weight of stars behind it. The name of the game is to get as many stars as possible this year. I’m creating a large vision board with all my goals that I can stick stars on as I earn them. I’m making this up on the fly, so I’ll be updating the goal star system as I go. (work in progress)

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27 at 27

Here are my 27 goals in no particular order:

1. I will push my physical fears to the limit

  • I will go hang-gliding (1 Star)
  • I will skydive (3 Stars)
  • I will run with my shirt off around town (5+ Stars)

2. I will interview 1000 creative people this year for my podcasts and for RenaissanceLife.com

  • ( 1 Star per interview) (5+ each 25 interviews)

3. I will travel outside of the country. (3 Stars)

  • 1 Star for every micro-adventure.

4. I will cultivate and cherish 25 excellent friendships.

  • 5 Star for first date, 1 Star for following dates (Stars are doubled with weekly follow throughs / consistency).

5. I will Increase my income to 10,000 month (10 Stars)

6. I will take an Improv class (7 Stars)

7. I will Watch 1 TED Talk every day this year. (1 star per 5 days in a row)

8. Read Review and speak my goals aloud every day (1 Star each day)

  •  Gratitude Practice every day
  •  Affirmation Practice every day
  •  Visualization Practice every day 

9. I Will Perform Music on stage

  • 5 Stars for the first
  • 1 Star per performance
  • 3 Star every 5 Performance

10. I Will Release a Music EP (10 Stars)

11.  I Will Write the first draft of my fiction book: Reflections (The Mirror Saga Book) (10 Stars)
12.  I Will Write and ship an ebook: Be Your Own Renaissance (10 Stars)

 

13.  I Will Make My Businesses Thrive:

  • I will make boldsheep into a successful crafting company
  • I will help grow Pass It Down to incredible heights
  • I will help grow PaulCummings.com into an even greater influential brand

14. I Will Binge Read 8 Blogs (Ryan Holiday, Seth Godin, Tim Ferriss, Brain Pickings, James Altucher, Ramit Sethi, Pat Flynn, and Bill Gates)

  • 10 Stars for Completely Reading them
  • 1 Star per idea / blog / action inspired by readings
  • Another star for doing the action yourself 

15. I Will Master the Strategies of Finances

  • Write and keep a track of finances every day (1 Star / 5 consecutive days)
  • Invest (3 Stars x)
  • Save (3 Stars x)
  • Spend time learning finances (1 Star per hour)
  • Spend time learning about bitcoin (1 Star per hour)

16. I Will Dance with Gabriella (1 Star each time)

17. I Will Go to Relationship Counseling with Gabriella (1 each time)

  • Find Relationship Mentors (10 Stars )

18. I will Get FIT

  • +5 lbs of Muscle (5 Stars)
  • Flexible AF (5 Stars)

19. I will Read, Review and take Action on 100 books. (1 Star per review)

  • Quality over Quantity
  • Action over Speaking
  • Practice what you Read  

What does taking action on a book look like? (1 Star per Action Taken)

Examples:

  • Reflection Questions
  •  Action Steps
  • Book Influences
  • People to Reach out to for Interviews / Conversations.

20. I will build a Podcasting Empire (1 Star every podcast session shipped)

  • (2 Stars per every consecutive week)

21. I will Blog every day (1 Star every consecutive day)

22. I will Design every day (1 Star every consecutive day)

23. I will Sketch every day (1 Star every consecutive day)

24. I will have fun and say yes to new experiences (1 Star per experience)

Examples:

  • Learn Tai Chi

25. Secret 1
26. Secret 2
27. Secret 3

 

Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

Q: What goals are you pursuing right now? 

 

Are Your Goals Compatible?

I’ve been thinking a lot about goals recently.

(Okay okay… more like I’m obsessed with goals and drive everyone crazy around me with ideas.)

We all have things we want to do, be and accomplish in our lives, but our desire usually doesn’t match up with our reality.

If you could quantify goals, I would imagine the data would say the vast majority of people don’t actually make their goals a reality. (Sad panda)  

To go even further up my butt of made up data, I’d say you could divide it into

A) people trying but failing and not continuing after failure, and  B) people not trying at all.

What traits can we adopt that separate those who make it happen versus those who never try? Why do we let our day to day busyness get in the way of what really matters to us? And why can’t we all be our own josh darn Steve Jobs, or a #girlboss and make our dreams come true?

 

One aspect that effects our ability to succeed is compatibility.

I keep running back to the question of, ‘Are all of my goals compatible with each other?’ 

Do they compliment each other, or create friction?

Are My Goals Compatible With Each Other?

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Imagine, if you will, your goals being electro-magnets. 🤓

Each goal you desire is attracting you to an outcome of positivity or negativity. The more electricity — the energy, grit, work and time you put in — the more likely your life will bend towards that positive outcome of success. 

If you want to start your own company, the positive side could be creating something meaningful, financially successful or improving the world in some fashion; The negative could be going bankrupt, trusting the wrong people, injuring your love life because all you do is work (cue Rhianna song).

Here’s where things even get more complex: 

When each goal you have is a magnet, they can all point your life compass towards different directions.

 

Compatible Goals Compliment

Compatible Goals compliment each other and point your life in a similar direction. If your goals are compatible, they will stay true and build upon each other to greater and more unique ways. (All good in the neighborhood)

What you do will be in alignment to who you are.

Having multiple goals means you have to give ’em more electricity, but they can charge up one another to greater effect.

However, what happens when your goals are incompatible?

Do they cancel each other out? Can giving electricity to one block the others?

What if incompatible goals give us that feeling of being stuck? Where nothing seems to be working and your completely frustrated by the fact that you can’t seem to make anything work out.

And here’s another inception point: not only goals are created equally.  Some are meant for you, others are distractions from outside sources or primal desires that only distract you from your true callings.

I (unfortunately) can’t help you decide which is which, the answer must come from you, I can only give you questions as tools to help guide you on your journey.

‘Compatible goals’ is interesting idea, with profound implications.

In the end, there’s only so much electricity we can give to our creative pursuits and life at one time.

Some goals need to be ignored, others need to pushed to later, and compatible ones need to be pursued with all your might.

Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner, Renaissance Man: June 8th 7AM EST, Chattanooga TN,

Action Steps

Make a list of your current goals you are pursuing.

Do your best to prioritize them by importance.

Action Questions

Q: Are my current goals compatible with one another?

Q: Do I have any incompatible goals that are canceling my most important goals?

Q: Do I know where my electricity is going?

Q: And if your not sure what’s most important to you, start with asking ‘What are my strengths? What charges me? What does an ideal life look like to me?’

Related Wisdom

Book: The One Thing by Gary Keller

Book: The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna

Finding Your Goal and Purpose in Life by James Altucher

Follow Through on Your Goals 2016 Edition by Pat Flynn of Smart Passive Income

The One Thing About by Seth Godin

 

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What’s my Next Step?

Growth happens

with one action at a time.

All we must do is focus in on our next move.

Plant the seeds of your future today.

 

Q —

What’s the next step I can do today,

that will help me reach my goal?

 

#KeepPursuing — Josh Waggoner

‘Brevity is the soul of wit.’  Email me (josh@renaissancemanlife.com) your thoughts on this post. Can you reduce the essential idea further?

related wisdom

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” — Dale Carnegie

“Action expresses priorities.” — Mahatma Gandhi

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” — Thomas Jefferson

Not Not Brilliant

We won’t become brilliant because we think we’re brilliant. (‘Man, I am sooooo amazing’ :P)

We’ll become brilliant by knowing we are not brilliant, and doing everything we can to change that. 

Its not the goal itself. It’s the improvements the goal requires of us to make it happen.

The mission leads to the outcome.

The outcome itself doesn’t necessarily matter, rather the actions we must take which  aligns us to achieving it. 

Take strides toward your mission, and you will be on your way to becoming not not brilliant.  

 

Related: 

 “They can because they think they can.” — Virgil

 “The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.” — Frank Loyd Wright

#KeepPursuing,
xoxo Josh Waggoner

‘Brevity is the soul of wit.’  Email me your thoughts on this post. Can you reduce the essential idea further?