Squaring the Hole — How to Think Longterm in Life’s Fragility

“Youth is something I never wanna take for granted. I just want to smile and live life.”

Tyler, The Creator

I write a lot about daily habits. Doing something daily or consistently allows you to take advantage of the compounding benefit of time. We divide a year into 365 days (or 366 days on a leap year). 10 to 30 minutes of practice times 365 days = 3650 to 10950 minutes of practice. An hour is double that. As you can see, a little time invested can go a long way.

But what about if tomorrow doesn’t come? As Logic says in his song Fade Away, “Everybody gonna die, gonna go one day, maybe it’ll happen on a Monday. Driving to work and get hit by a Hyundai, f* it, let it all go one day.” Tomorrow, For all we know we could get hit by a Hyundai, of all things, and never get our chance to do and be all that we want to be.

It’s hard to say where life will take you. Usually where you would never expect, and yet somehow makes since when you back on things and line up the pieces. Most of it is out of our control. The more we can learn to accept that, roll with it and find opportunities no matter what comes our way, the happier and better off we will be.

Our thoughts and decisions are in our control. And while we can’t control everything that goes on outside of our own minds and actions, how we think and what we do place a big part in how our lives shape up.

There’s a lot of things I’d like to accomplish and experience in life. But having a vision or dream for your life doesn’t assure that it will happen. Having a dream is the first step. And making it happen is the second step. But somewhere in that undisclosed middle, a lot can happen.

1. We let fear control us.

“The whole point is to live life and be – to use all the colors in the crayon box.”

RuPaul

We act out of fear. We breathe and sweat fear and failure. We do the wrong thing for the right reasons or the right thing for the wrong reasons. We avoid our dreams because there’s “always tomorrow” or because there’s always something that seems to get in the way.

2. We live by other people’s dreams instead of our own.

“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75.”

Benjamin Franklin

We live a shadow dream, as Steven Pressfield calls it in Turn Pro. It looks similar to what we want, but in reality, we’re just avoiding what we really want to do out of fear or embarrassment or not being good enough or any number of other things we convince ourselves of — all with thoughts that are supposed to be in our control.

3. Or we even chase after our dreams so hard and far that we forget to be present and enjoy our lives in the process.

“Confine yourself to the present.”

Marcus Aurelius

We get everything we want, but forget to spend time with the people we love and forget to enjoy the process towards success while we are building it. Or worse — we don’t get what we want, and we still miss out on the time and experience spent with our love ones.

But luckily, all there’s are in our domain of control — our thoughts and our actions. We can learn and train ourselves not to act out of fear, but out of abundance and beginner’s mind.

There’s room in life to enjoy the present, while also preparing and building for the future.

By living life to the fullest each day.
By taking things as they are, not as they could or should be.
By not letting fear win.
By choosing our own path.
By not letting our dreams consume us.
And by living a little when we remember too.

“What really matters is what you do with what you have.”

H. G. Wells

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #872

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Finding Renaissance

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?”

Mary Oliver, The Summer Day, Pulitzer Prize winning poet.

Life is a series of awakenings and revivals. Sometimes awakenings happen inactively without our input. The loss of innocence for example. The multidisciplinary, Neri Oxman, describes the feeling as ‘discovering innocence at the moment you lose it’. Born in Haifa Israel, for her, it was her experiences in served in the Israeli Armed Forces as a teenager that opened her eye’s to the harsher sides of life.

Awakenings can also happen actively from our own curiosity and discovery too. The moment you think you have things figured out, an idea, a quote, a change, a friend or an influence rocks your foundation of who you are and what you think about the world. For me, health was a big one.

Growing up, I didn’t know a thing about health and wellness. (Neither did my parents.) Being a 90’s baby, I practically lived off fast-food, soda, refined bread and lucky charms. I was constantly catching colds and having sinus problems, but I didn’t know that was not normal. I had no frame of reference to compare my health to. It honestly never occurred to me until much later that food changed how you look and feel. I had no idea how impactful food, exercise and sleep could be on the quality of your life. It was until much later after high school when I read a few books on health and exercise and discovered the impact of health. The crazy thing is I know I’m not the only one who was asleep to the ideas of health. Perhaps this blog post is the first time you are waking up to the importance of health yourself.

A more common word for awakenings we experience is change. Life is continuously changing.

The historical Renaissance (14th – 16th century) was a time of innovation in art and human potential based on the revitalization of Roman and Greek thinking. To put simply: It was an age of discovery, creativity and pursuit. Today, life and technology moves at breakneck speeds. So must we if we are going to take advantage of our brief and precious life. Because life is moving so fast and becoming more connected, things can easily feel overwhelming at times. It’s easy to default to living a life of someone else’s dreams, instead of one you decide on yourself.

Today we face a new renaissance — A personal renaissance. And a renaissance of like-minded individuals like us all seeking a different and more meaningful way to live. We must become more resilient, adaptable and creative to be who we want to be and to do what we want to do. Dreams of a lifetime don’t happen with wishes. We must create them happen.

‘Renaissance’ comes from the combination of the French verb ‘renaitre’ — ‘to revive’ and the noun ‘naissance’.

Your renaissance life is your own, but it begins the moment you decide you want to seek out change and recreate yourself into the best you possible. The more we can learn about ourselves — who we are, what we like, what we stand for — the better we will get at reaching for the ideal. The renaissance life isn’t about perfection, it’s about pursuit. It’s about pursuing intentional changing and being lifelong learner in the skills and characteristics we want to master.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #733


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For The Hell of It

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.”

Michael Jordan

A great sign you are on to something you should be doing every day is whether or not you could live without it.

What’s something creative you just can’t not do?
Something you would do even if you never got a dime (paid) for it in your life.
Something you think about often and talk about enthusiastically.

At the end of your life, what would you regret the most never doing?

This is a question that’s great for finding a driving factor in life.

This is art. This is your creative pursuit.

A creative pursuit is an amazing way to clarify your actions and priorities. Like lightning rod to lightning discovering within yourself work you can’t live without is an obvious answer to what you should spend your time doing.

Perhaps you won’t spend your entire life doing it. We are continuously changing, responding to the world around us and loving new things as we grow. We naturally live multiple lives — or book chapters — as we get older.

However, if we feel a passion for something, we should just add it to our lives first and foremost, instead of trying to fit it in to an already stuffed life.

We have to make the time. No-one is going to do it for us.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner

Daily Blog #637

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Life Principle #5: Create A Life Mission

“There’s something in your heart, 
and it’s in your eyes, the fire,
Inside you.”

You don’t say good luck, 
You say don’t give up, it’s the fire,
Inside you.”

The Roots, The Fire

The times in my life where am the most stuck is when I lose track of where I want to go in life. Why am I doing this? When you don’t have an aim — a truth north — to guide you forward, it’s easy to spin in circles and stay in nowheresville. You feel stuck because you keep doing the same old things day in and day out without any rhyme or reason. 

When I meet someone new, I can immediately tell if they have a life mission.  They have a spark in their eyes. You can feel their energy. They have a getup and go power that most — the ones who haven’t found their life mission yet — don’t have. 

Life Principle #5: Create A Life Mission

Your Life Mission is your purpose in life. It’s your passion, your desires — It’s what you feel most strongly towards. The thing that fuels and drives you.

Your Fire.

A spark is all it takes to ignite your life.

When you unlock your mission, your life snaps into place. 

Now, I’m sure you’ve heard a thousand bloggers, books and people out there tell you to find your purpose. Find your purpose and you will succeed. I think most people treat their purpose like they are hunting for Easter eggs on Christmas Day. We don’t find our purpose in life — We create it.

We don’t find our purpose in life — We create it.

Leave finding your purpose to the self-help shamans who haven’t practiced a day in their life what they say.

You have the capability to create your mission in life right now.

It’s not all rainbows and unicorn cupcakes of course. 

For one, knowing your life mission is one thing, but living it is another. 

The more you align your daily living with your mission, the strong you’re fire will be. But there will always be opportunities and distractions you can say YES to that will pull you away from your purpose.

And sometimes circumstances, setbacks, and failures come crashing into our perfectly invincible lives.

But creating your mission in life makes you more resilient to the setbacks that come your way. In fact, your setbacks can become fuel to overcome the painful moments to get to the meaningful ones.

Instead of feeling stuck, you know you’re just not THERE yet. You still have some learning to grow.

Instead of despairing in failure, you see it as an opportunity to go further.

Instead of going around in circles, you have an aim to shoot for.

How to Create Your Life Mission

Creating your life mission is about trying on new hats and seeing what fits.

Start by looking for signs of that fire in your eyes. How do you feel when you pick up a guitar? How do you feel when you dance? How do you feel when you’ve captured a moment with your camera? How do you feel when you travel? 

Your Life Mission should feel uncomfortable, yet unbelievable. Where, you’re scared to take the leap, yet when you do, you’ve never felt more ALIVE.

Examine your life.

Q: What do you like, what do you dislike? List and draw it out.

Q: Do you see a thread underneath your favorite things to do?

My mission in life is to become a Renaissance Man, a master of multiple crafts and life of meaning and worth. My mission is to serve millions of people and help them reach their greatest potential. And my mission is creativity. To pursue creativity and imagination in all that I do.

Start creating your life mission today.

Make it larger than life, make it BOLD, and make it too big for one life to hold.

And when you get there, when you reach the top of the mountain — create another.

Stay BOLD, Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

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