Life Principle #12: Cherish Others

You won’t get far in life without a solid group of friends pushing you to be better and more capable. (You won’t have as much fun either!)

You won’t get far by treating everyone around you like they are beneath you.

And you won’t get far by ignoring everyone that’s not in your group.

A Renaissance Life is a life of cherishing others.

Life Principle: Cherish Others

People want to be seen and heard more than anything in the world. Cherishing others means caring about the well-being and success of the people around you. 

How do you cherish others?

Reach out first. Healthy relationships are nourished by reaching out to those you cherish, in small intentional ways that show you care.

Be Generous. Relationships are a two-way street. You both have to be giving something in order to get something out of the friendship, and Generosity is a great way of doing that. No one in the history of ever has thought generosity is a bad character trait for a friend. Who wants to be surrounded by people who don’t give two shakes of a shake weight about you? Go out of your way to be generous.

Genuinely want them to succeed. Have you ever known someone who supports what you do, yet secret wishes you would fail? Some friend indeed. Don’t be them! Life is abundant, great friendships genuinely desire for each party to succeed in their pursuits. 

Love the mundane. A great relationship is someone you can do absolutely nothing with and still have a great time. Painting a wall? Waiting in line? Walking through an airport? Each can be a laugh out loud moment with the right group.

Be there — especially when I­t­ counts. You have to put yourself first, but cherishing others is being there when it counts. If someone asks you to help them when they are in need — and you can — do it. 

And last but not least. Listen. Cherishing others is about listening to what they say. Listen to their hopes and fears. Listen to their problems, and encourage them to believe in themselves. 

Friendercises 

Q: When was the last time you had a deep, heart to heart conversation with someone?
Call up a friend and talk about your hopes and dreams for the year. Where you want to go, who you want to be. Leave small talk for the birds.

Q: When was the last time you went out and meet new people?
Find a group or event around a topic you love and want to master. Become a strong character in that community.

Q: Who are the people you hang out with the most?
I strongly believe that we are the sum of the people we hang out with the most. Sit down and list out who you spend your time with. Are these the people that will push you higher towards your dreams (and vice versa)? Or are they holding you back? Surround yourself with greatness to become great. Surround yourself with positivity to be more positive. Surround yourself with hope to be hopeful.

In the end, cherishing others might be the best way to cherish yourself.

Stay BOLD, Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

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Related Insights

“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.” — Jim Morrison

“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” —  Oprah Winfrey

“Friends… they cherish one another’s hopes. They are kind to one another’s dreams.” — Henry David Thoreau

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” — Lucius Annaeus Seneca

“Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don’t give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.” —  Tena Desae

“If you want to become healthy, you have to surround yourself with a group of people that are getting healthy, and you have to be connected to a community that is doing what you want to do.” — Henry Cloud

Origami Life

I want to get to the end of my life and be like a piece of origami paper.

Worn, folded, and forged from a thousand lives lived.

A lifetime of learning, pursuit, and adventure. A life of meaning and worth. A life filled with friendships, creativity and boldness.

Otherwise what was I living for?

Sometimes we have to take a good hard look and ask ourselves, ‘Am I ALIVE or am I just existing?’

Complacency is insidious. It creeps into our lives through comfort and success.

I’m not telling you to throw out your blankets and sleep on a pile of hard candy. I’m saying make sure what you give your time to — what you do on a day-to-day basis — aligns with the vision of the life you want to have. And if you don’t have a vision for your life there’s no better time like the present. It’s hard to see the macro when you’re living in the micro, but our lives are the sum each day we have on this earth. What does your day look like? If you’re going through setbacks — keep going. If you fear something — do it. If you’re experiencing pain or failure — Reset your mind, body, and focus. Start living for the extraordinary.

 

Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

Action Question:

  • Am I ALIVE or am I just here?
  • If I was an origami shape, what would I be?

Related Wisdom:

“If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!’ to something, then I say no.” — Derek Sivers

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”Carol Burnett

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”Marcus Aurelius

“To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone.”  — Reba McEntire

Other Words For Brilliance

Remarkable

Extraordinary

Professional

Exceptional

Charismatic

Greatness

Impactful

Different

Reliable

Better

Vibrant

Humble

Leader

Care

Excellent

Visionary

A Renaissance Man (or Renaissance Woman).

All hitting on the same idea — Brilliance.

I want to be brilliant.

We have the same goal in mind, If you’re pursuing one of these (or one like it). 

 

#KeepPursing,

Josh Waggoner

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Not Not Brilliant

We won’t become brilliant because we think we’re brilliant. (‘Man, I am sooooo amazing’ :P)

We’ll become brilliant by knowing we are not brilliant, and doing everything we can to change that. 

Its not the goal itself. It’s the improvements the goal requires of us to make it happen.

The mission leads to the outcome.

The outcome itself doesn’t necessarily matter, rather the actions we must take which  aligns us to achieving it. 

Take strides toward your mission, and you will be on your way to becoming not not brilliant.  

 

Related: 

 “They can because they think they can.” — Virgil

 “The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.” — Frank Loyd Wright

#KeepPursuing,
xoxo Josh Waggoner

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Input Equals Output =>

Your output is determined by your input.

Meaning, what you consume affects what you produce.

When you take in negativity, or worry, or gossip, or stupidity, or anger… (consciously or not)

you push out the same sentiments (aware of it or not).

The same holds true for positivity, and brilliance, and excellence…
 

Extraordinary output, needs quality input. 

Related:
That’s why they say you should surround yourself with smarter people than you.
Or why they say you are the combination (Voltron style) of your closest friends.

 

#KeepPursuing,
xoxo Josh Waggoner

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Let’s Be Brilliant

Why —

I can safely say,

we all want to live an amazing life.

To have impact and meaning.

To be extraordinary. (I’ve never heard anyone say, ‘gee, I wish I was ordinary.’ :P)

To die with a smile on our faces – no regrets.

I want to help millions of people.

And my main life mission is to be a Renaissance Man, master of multiple crafts.

The question left is how do we become brilliant?

Brilliant is a journey.

We’ll have to live, each day with awareness – the goal in mind.

We’ll have to discover and rediscover the Wisdom of the Ages.

We’ll have to experiment and test what works and what doesn’t.

We’ll have to unlock the keys of brilliance, and in doing so, the keys to success.

A worthwhile life requires us to be brilliant. So let’s push each other towards that goal.

Let’s be Brilliant.

related:

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” — Henry David Thoreau

#KeepPursuing,
xoxo Josh Waggoner

‘Brevity is the soul of wit.’  Email me your thoughts on this post. Can you reduce the essential idea further?