“Truth is confirmed by inspection and delay; falsehood by haste and uncertainty.”Tacitus
The biggest regrets I have were when I didn’t go with my gut (or didn’t take the time to even listen to my gut) and instead backed an answer on a ‘maybe’. Here’s another way of putting it, I let other people’s opinions and desires outweigh my own. I backed their truth instead of trusting my own truth.
Perhaps you can related to this as well, because you’ve dealt with it outcome the hard way too.
There are so many important decisions we face in life:
- Should I take this job? …. hmm I’m not sure, the pay is good…
- Should I go to this school or that school? (should I go to school at all??) … I want to go to this one, but everyone else is telling me to go to that one…
- Hey bro, do you want to invest in X Y Z? … it sounds like a great idea, but it’s not really what I’m passionate about…
- Is this the person I want to be with for the rest of my life?
- Is this the person I want to be for the rest of my life?
When it comes to making decisions, big or small, never bet your future on a maybe.
There’s a massive difference between “I don’t know” and “I’m not sure”.
“I don’t know” is a perfectly acceptable answer. It shows that there’s still some more time you need to carve out for yourself to think about the question you are answering.
But If you are not sure, then you are hesitating. Hesitation is another form of ‘maybe’.
Hesitation usually is a sign that you are sure, you know you should say yes (or you know you should say no) but for whatever reason, we over think it and confuse ourselves into making the wrong call.
The problem is, t’s easy for a ‘maybe’ to default into a ‘yes’. But I think it should be the other way around.
I think any type of hesitation or uncertainty around a decision should default to a ‘no’. Particularly if your gut is say ‘no’ and your head is saying ‘yes’.
If someone asks you to make a moment’s notice decision and you are not sure, then just say no. Maybe it’s a bad call. Maybe you’ll miss out on an opportunity. But a possible opportunity you are uncertain about is never worth give your valuable resources to (your time and energy). As they say, opportunities are a dime a dozen. If you miss out on one, another will come soon enough. Hell, we can even create our own opportunity instead!
Life is uncertain, don’t let your decisions be uncertain too.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #690