Go Easy on Yourself

That fresh, clean feeling of the start of a New Year always makes me want to resolve to do a hundred things. Exercise more. Be a better friend. Write better stories. Stop eating sugar. Go to bed early… you get the idea.

Whether you are as intoxicated by New Year’s Resolutions like me, or just intoxicated (hey-o!!) remind yourself that you are only human.

It does us no good to self-judge ourselves when we make mistakes or miss the mark.

Go easy on yourself—

Learn to be more self-compassionate.

Good habits aren’t built in a day, they are built every day.

So if you mess up and eat a cookie, don’t quit. Start back up immediately with enthusiasm and desire to be better next time. Don’t let bad habits win.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1155

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Thirty, Flirty and Thriving (part 2)

“A goal is not always meant to be reached, it often serves simply as something to aim at.”

Bruce Lee

30 goals for my 30th year:

  1. Get married and go on a ballin honeymoon
  2. Nanowrimo
  3. 1000 Email Subscribers
  4. 2 podcasts episodes a week
  5. Start a side business that makes an extra $1000/mo
  6. Become a confident singer
  7. Resign the Renaissance Life website
  8. Create and ship an app
  9. Become a YouTuber
  10. Create an online course
  11. Find / Build an incredible work environment
  12. Earn $10,000 / mo
  13. Get Nutritionist License
  14. Self-publish a book
  15. Debt-free lifestyle
  16. Surround myself with a solid group of friends and communities
  17. Piano music theory, Learn Jazz
  18. Get better at music production
  19. Release a music ep
  20. optimize my mind, body, and spirit
  21. Take an acting/theater/performance class
  22. Take an improv class
  23. Be more decisive
  24. Become a better decision-maker. Plan. Prep. Perceive.
  25. Learn a martial art
  26. Increase my RAM: Learn accelerated learning/ memory techniques
  27. Improve storytelling/communication skills
  28. Make stuff with my hands
  29. Learn to “greet what comes my way with gratitude”
  30. Learn Japanese

For the last couple of years, instead of doing New Years Resolutions, I do them on my birthday and come up with a list of goals I want to pursue during the year. (Part 1 was a brief look back at my twenties.)

The plan is to add one more goal each year, until I (God willing) reach a certain age (50 or 55) and then start removing one goal per year. So at age 55 I’ll have 55 goals, but at age 110 I’ll only have one goal (aka get out of bed lol.)

Ambition isn’t always about reaching for more. Often it’s more ambition to pick a big idea and go deep on it.

One thing you might notice about my 30 list is I’m a little all over the place. I feel like I’m still in the discovery phase of who I am and what’s possible. The two big themes that stand out are creativity and fear. Put another way, my list may look scattered, but each item is driving toward the goal of pushing me to be bold, put myself out there and try things that scare me.

Fear is a powerful motivator. It’s something that can motivate us to keep our heads down and shy away from attention. Yet fear is also something that can show us what we need to do. A flashing signing telling us we need to do this. Taking an improv class terrifies me—that’s why I know I need to do it.

Some of these are specific and concrete, others are a little too vague for my liking, so I’ll be thinking about how I can refine them into tangible actions.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1095

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Lost in the Weeds

“A lot of times, people have something that they’re afraid of. They’ve got a client that’s mad at them. They’ve got a project that’s due. And they let that stress hang over their head. I don’t let that happen.”

Jocko Willink

Projects start clear and exciting, but once you are in the thick of it, it’s easy to get lost in things that don’t matter or get sidetracked by newer, more recently exciting ideas. A shiny idea is always going to look more appealing than the muddy middle you are currently in, but finishing what you start will be more meaningful than start yet another project.

An idea tends to grow and become more complex over time. A simple idea can quickly turn into an unconquerable beast if you let it.

That’s why its good to schedule periodic moments of pause and reflection on what you are working on, reassess your goals, and how they compare. Even when your deadline is tight, taking a moment to think things through and be intentional about what you’re doing could pay dividends.

  • Is there a better way I could do X?
  • Is this essential? Does this keep the message clear?
  • What’s working and what needs to be improved?

Reassess why you are doing what you are doing. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.

If you would start a project even if you never made a single dollar off of it, would you still do it? If the answer is yes, then, you’re on the right track. Most of my regrets in life are decisions based on money alone. Money is motivating, but not so much when you are in facing moments of struggle and challenge. Doing something for the right reasons, out of passion, impact, curiosity, and expression is much more motivating (and often lead to wealth) than just money alone.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #927

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Hello 2020

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”

Walt Disney

You ever see someone attempt to determine which way they are facing (north, south, etc.) by licking their finger and pointing to the sky to feel the direction of the wind?

That’s how I see New Years Resolution.

Our goal should be to check off a dozen things all in a year. Instead, we should see a new year as a way to sense whether or not the direction our life is pointing in the direction we want to go.

A lot can happen in a short amount of time. And so much of our lives are out of our hands. Our path in life is rarely a straight line, nor does our expectations parallel our experiences. But if we can at least know which way is north, we can get to our destination — and enjoy the journey that comes — eventually.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #795

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Magic Beans

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on
being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

Anna Quindlen

I think New Years Resolutions usually fail because we put too much pressure on ourselves to succeed. By the end of January, we want to have lost 25lbs, read a hundred books, run a marathon and thirty other goals on top of that.

We want the magic beans, the thing that will immediately give us what we want as easy as possible. But that’s no how change works.

Change happens slowly. A decision to change can happen instantly, but the hard work and commitment to make it reality takes some time.

While you’re thinking about 2020 and what you want to accomplish and experience, remind yourself that it’s okay if a goal might take a while. It might be easy, but it might not be. Either way, if it’s something you want to do or accomplish, do let difficulty stop you from doing it. Difficult moments are fleeting. They are like a campfire in a rainstorm.

By all means, make a giant list of things you want (I know I am going to). Then, pick on and focus in 100% on it. You’re not saying no to the others you’re are just saying no to them right now while you focus on the goal at hand.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #791

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