“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. … A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.”Henry David Thoreau, Civil Disobedience and Other Essays
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be.”
“Your life is what you make of it” is one of those wise dusty phrases that’s probably existed since the birth of humanity. I know its truth, but I almost don’t want it to be true. If it’s not true then all the crap, frustration, and problems We experience throughout life isn’t our responsibility.
“Ugh. She is so lucky. She gets everything she wants.”
“What does it matter that I lost my job, it’s not like it was my fault?”
“Wow his company is super cool. I would do something like that too if my parents bankrolled it as his parents did.”
I do think luck (and it’s counterpart) exists. But not all good luck is lucky, and not all bad luck is unlucky (Put that on a fortune cookie). Timing the market is lucky (and possibly something we can hone and train). Yet, making does with what you have is luck. It’s subtle, but one is an external event, and the other is an internal one.
We don’t get to choose what life we’ve come into, who our parents are, what our culture looks like—but we do get to choose who we are.
We get to choose who we are.
Every time you step up and take responsibility for your life, you are choosing luck and choosing wisdom.
(No—I’m not talking about the hunky Channing Tatum Dance movie called Step Up.)
Own your life. Don’t wallow in complaints, could-have-been’s, and misfortune. At the end of the day, there’s only so much time have here. At the end of the day, after all the emotions and little day to day problems we are dealing with, if we were just to look up we’d see the massive galaxy we are in, in the unfathomable universe. Our problems are important—but they’re also relatively tiny.
So what do we do?
We get up. We get going. We make the most of the day. We work even if we are still a little bit sleepy. We take care of ourselves—because that’s what we need (and that’s what we would tell our best friends to do too). And we own up to our responsibilities, and expect others to do the same. And if we fail… well, we’ll do better the next day.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #983