I find that most often in creativity and life, the more I try and force it, the less it works (whatever it is).
It’s a hard life, being a try-hard. 😆
It’s an interesting counterintuitive idea that wanting something so much brings you the opposite results. Or you get what you wanted and the results aren’t worth what it cost to get it.
It’s not that hard work doesn’t pay off, it does pay off, usually ten-fold. But working hard doesn’t automatically mean we are working smart.
Nor does working hard doesn’t always mean getting what you want, exactly how you want it.
Which can be a good thing. Usually what we start out with is limited by the information we have at the moment. In the beginning, we don’t know what’s possible (or what’s normal) so anything is possible. And as we grow we discover the layers of an idea, skill, business, etc.
But if we stuck with our original goal/definition of success or what it means to be great at something, we’re missing out on what’s in front of us.
The passion and desire aren’t wrong, it’s the tight mindset around the finish line that needs some adjustments.
The problem isn’t that we move the goal post, it’s that we don’t appreciate the successes (and failures) along the way. We’re so focused on the goal, we forget to enjoy the moment.
Instead of taking every challenge and opportunity with a tight fist, always clenching and squeezing with all our might to make something happen, we can open up our hands, let go of the outcome, and be agile and flexible to obstacles and change.
With an open palm, we can let go of what should be, do our best each day, and create an outcome with the greater potential of what *can* be.
This is how we can be happy with where we are, yet simultaneously always push ourselves to be better.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing — Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1612