Why do we read self-help books? What are we seeking?
We want something to change, something to be different, better than it is now. We likely even know what needs to be changed since we’ve bought a book related to it.
But most self-help books are glorified fluff pieces (I know, I’ve read like all the books them) they make you feel good but don’t lead you to change anything. It’s not the author’s fault. They genuinely (usually) want to help you change your life for the better.
The problem is we are reading too passively. We read one book and then we’re onto the next without properly processing the insights or trying them out ourselves.
Change is tough. It’s easier to distract ourselves go out there and make our art, ask for forgiveness, or do something that scares us.
It takes work to lose weight, to start a business, to run a marathon, to get off the couch and do something, anything.
At its best, a self-help book motivates to try. To step outside of our current selves and take action on something new.
But how do we do that? What’s a self-helper to do?
Make the downsides of not taking action worse than changing.
Regret. Missed Opportunities. A wasted life. Giving up. Still being alive, yet not living.
We can do either two things:
Getting up off the couch and going for a walk.
Or stay on the couch and feed our regret.
Every little action we take creates a change.
Despite the fear, embarrassment, and possibility of failure or feeling stuck and staying the same, at least we are giving it a go. And when we do fail or embarrass ourselves we learn, laugh, and keep going.
Always let the cost of inaction be greater than the potential cost of action.
Real Self-Help is taking action. It’s practicing what we love. It’s letting our actions speak for us.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing — Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1517