Our emotions, thoughts, and experiences change how we see the world around us. When your thoughts are negative, your world feels negative.
I didn’t sleep well yesterday so I wasn’t in the best mood. When you’re in a bad mood, everyone feels like they are pushing against you. (Obviously, if everyone is in a bad mood, clearly it’s you that’s the problem.)
But the same is true for good emotions and thoughts too.
Optimism rubs off on people. Even the most prickly person can have a hard time not being affected by the glow of charisma and hopefulness.
It’s not about only being positive and making light of bad situations. Optimism isn’t about ignoring reality. An optimist sees what everyone else sees. They are just viewing the world through a bright lens.
It’s about not letting the bad circumstances win.
There’s the event—what happens—and then there’s how we perceive it. Our perception changes everything. But that’s hard to see when you’re in a bad or negative mood. (Because a negative lens only shows you a negative view.)
If something negative happens to you—say you lose your job, or find out someone is trying to tarnish your reputation—then feeling the emotion is natural. Anger. Negativity. Sadness. Loneliness. Despair. But all these things cut both ways. Giving into poisonous emotions too long and you’ll only hurt yourself.
Who’s benefiting from our anger or despair? No us, certainly.
Anger can get you far, but it can’t make you happy.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1245