“The first essentials, of course, is to know what you want.”Robert Collier
“Surface-level needs” is a fancy term I use for anything that provides us instant happiness or gratification, but ultimately drains us from true joy and fulfillment.
For example, Ice-cream makes me very happy. Everything I’m partaking I want to do a little dance while I’m stuffing my face. But… ice-cream-happy quickly fades to dissatisfaction. I want more. My body starts to ache and complain. My mind turns into a wet pool noodle.
Think of surface-level needs as the equivalent to small talk. I wouldn’t say I enjoy small talk, but it has its places. But if all I gave and received small talk, I would be miserable.
Instant gratification only goes so far. Eventually, it stops working, and worse usually adds up to us feeling malnourished in one form or another.
We all want personal freedom, but another pair of jeans isn’t going to give us that.
It’s better to go deep and cultivate our foundational needs—self-love, compassion, wisdom, confidence, purpose, laughter, financial flexibility, close friendships—that way we no longer feel the desire to gratify our whims and-or stir the pot because we’re bored or unhappy.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1038