“When I’m stuck for a closing to a lyric, I will drag out my last resort: overwhelming illogic.”David Bowie
Have you ever noticed yourself only changing when you absolutely have to?
It’s a bad habit most adopt when life pummels you with hard punches and you’re left dizzy and unsure of what to do next.
Until our backs are against the wall, we’d rather be unhappy and keep things exactly as they are, rather than deal with the unknown.
The argument makes a lot of sense to me. Change isn’t always easy. We may be uncomfortable with ourselves and-or our lives, but at least we know that. There’s plenty of things worse than being uncomfortable.
I don’t think that’s the true reason. My guess is we don’t change because we don’t realize we need too.
Our unhappiness becomes our new normal.
It’s like walking on hot pavement or sand that’s been baking in the sun. At first it’s uncomfortably hot, but if we keeping walking on it our feet get used to the heat and what was once unbearable becomes bearable. From an outsiders perspective, it looks like hot sand, but to us, it’s just another day in ‘paradise’.
We become so used to things we dislike about ourselves or our lives that we no longer are aware of it. We become stuck because we don’t see that we should change. And if someone or something brings our problems to bare we make every excuse in the book and convince ourselves change is impossible.
Don’t get me wrong, we want to change, but we also don’t want to change.
We don’t want things to get worse.
But’s what’s worse than feeling stuck? What’s worse than fearing failure? What’s worse than living a life true to yourself? Not much.
Change starts with observing yourself and your life and becoming aware of what needs to improve. Instead of glossing things over, we need to look at them in daylight, as if we were helping a friend.
After knowing what needs to be changed, next comes prioritizing tasks that will make the deepest impact. And when we are ready to change, we start small and deliberate—one spoonful of the elephant one bite at a time.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1025