“There are times in life when, instead of complaining, you do something about your complaints.”Rita Dove
It doesn’t matter how you slice it—complaining doesn’t work.
If you are looking for sympathy, you won’t get it by complaining to everyone around you. Complain too much and everyone will try to avoid you or at the very least only give you eye roles every time you talk about your ailments.
If you are looking for help, complaining isn’t the best strategy either. It’s not that others don’t care, they likely care a great deal, but to them, you’re a record stuck on repeat. As much as others would like to help you, they know they can’t unless you are willing to do something about what you are complaining about.
If you are looking for a change, complaining will further entrench you into feeling stuck and incapable. Thoughts affect our beliefs and our willingness to act. If we are constantly complaining or looping negative thoughts in our heads that will also reflect in our actions (and/or lack of action). You can change—you can transform yourself and your life completely—but your inter and external complaints are like glue keeping yours from progressing. Thoughts affect actions; Actions affect thoughts. By giving into complaining, you’re cutting off your ability to clean your thoughts and/or desire to get up and make a change.
Don’t get me wrong—It’s okay to feel bad. It’s okay to feel down and out, helpless, discouraged, less than, apathetic, scared, lonely, and all the other negative emotions. We all do, at some point or another. I know I do—a few times a week! What’s not okay is always letting those things constantly control and run our lives.
Smart small. Get some rest. Cover your bases (mind, body, and spirit). Do what you can. Remind yourself that this won’t last forever. Just keep moving.
Write out your complaints on a small piece of paper, put it in a locked complaint box, and then proceed to never look at it again.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #982