“Saying no frees you up to say yes when it matters most.”Adam Grant
It’s not that loose threads are inherently bad or good—like many things it depends on the context. On the road to success, there will be many opportunities we could say yes or no too.
The problem is, most opportunities look pretty great! How the heck do you know what’s a good opportunity versus a bad opportunity?
Simple (..but far from easy): compare the opportunity to yourself—who you are, what you value, and what kind of life you want to have.
The question is whether it’s leading you towards or against what you’re looking for.
Is this opportunity and/or obligation distracting me from what I actually want to do?
If someone is dangling money or fame In front of you, but it doesn’t align with who you want to be, will you take it or turn it down? Tough call. Knowing what you want, no—discovering what you want through experience and practice will make tough decisions much easier.
Is this yes a true yes or more like an easy/fun distraction?
Of course, in order to answer questions like these, you have to know who you are. And, equally important, you have to learn to act on self-interest. Self-interest isn’t selfish. You can be caring and compassionate about others AND have an opinion and say what you want your life to look like.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #980