“Expect great things, and great things will come.”Norman Vincent Peale
“Yeah, I’m late to everything LOLs…”
That’s me. I’ve said a version of the phrase above more times than I can remember. In high school, I was late to first class so much that we (our class) started collecting my tardy slips and taping them to the wall as a joke—like a badge of honor (shame? disbelief? 🙂 to see how many I accumulated.
I try not to be late nowadays—at least when it matters. You get to a point where you realize it’s a sign of respect when you get somewhere on time because you are respecting someone else’s time. I have to fight it because as a multi-disciplinary, I have a tendency to take on too much during the day. (A topic for another day, perhaps.)
Another phrase I’ve said a lot:
“I’m terrible with direction.”
This one you still my catch me saying. I’ve learned a lot—directions aren’t one of them. It’s not that I can’t find my way around—I can tell you which direction is east and which is west—rather, I’m generalizing. The truth is I don’t bother memorizing road names or direction details. I can easily get around if I’ve been to a place before, otherwise, I couldn’t tell ya where were are or give you directions without whipping out my phone and asking my friend GPS.
There’s a huge part of our identity that’s wrapped in negative labels we adopt from others or give to ourselves.
Perhaps you weren’t aware of it until now, but once you know it, you’ll start to hear it from everyone.
“Oh yeah, I suck at math!”
“Yoga?! I’m as stiff as a board. You won’t see me bending like that”
“Cooking? You mean takeout?”
“I’m so unlucky!”
“I”m terrible at finances lol.”
It goes on and on. We wear these labels like a badge of honor, but in reality, we are just holding ourselves back from being a better version of ourselves.
The reason I’m usually bad with directions because I don’t prioritize learning it. In fact, my mindset is an action AND reaction that devalues me from wanting to be good at it.
The same goes for other negative traits we feel about ourselves.
Something bad happens—like we spill coffee on our brand new white pants—and then we mentally tell, no convince, ourselves we are unlucky. At that point, two things occur 1. We become aware of our “unluckiness”. We start seeing out validating reasons why we are unlucky to prove to ourselves we are right. And 2. we view the world through our “unlucky” mindset and start making decisions that lead us to be more unlucky.
The interesting thing is the reverse can happen too—we can convince ourselves that we are the luckiest person in the world—and find ways to validate it and we start taking action that makes it true.
In a word—we are all biased by our “badges of honor”, so to speak.
The real question is who do you want to be? What kind of person do you want to be?
By thinking through the limiting believe’s you have, you can slowly begin to convert them to limitless beliefs instead.
What do you believe about yourself that isn’t doing you any favors? What can you replace them with?
What do you believe about yourself that you want to be true? What can you start doing to make that happen?
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #941
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