“An arrogant person considers himself perfect. This is the chief harm of arrogance. It interferes with a person’s main task in life – becoming a better person.”Leo Tolstoy
Some hard lessons must be learned on your own. Telling me to avoid bad clients, for example, is great advice but difficult to follow until I’ve felt the personal sting of working for a bad egg.
A bad client is a bad client. No amount of money is worth the time and frustration spent dealing with someone who will never be satisfied with your work—not even if it was blessed by the pope and lightly kissed by Ryan Gosling.
Eventually they will turn against you. Again, it’s hard to know that until you felt it.
The same is true for a lot of things that can happen to us— broken bones, lost love, failed classes, empty pockets, nights on the bathroom floor, fights with strangers and flights with people we love, etc. Everything we experience—good or bad—is a chance to learn and improve ourselves.
There are lessons in every problem and misfortune— we just have to be willing to hear them.
Painful lessons are not meant to close us off and harden us from ourselves and others—they aren’t meant to open us up to better ways of living.
It takes a lot of courage to do that.
And it’s still worth giving advice when asked because even if it’s not listened to now, it will inevitably be remembered and (ideally) reinforced later.
Not all advice is created equal, of course. It does matter who is giving it. Not everyone you meet will have your back. When the challenges come, you’ll find out quickly who your true friends are. (\Another hard lesson worth learning.)
Sometimes we are too close to someone for them to give us advice that we’d actually listen too.
Sometimes we might have to detach the advice from the person saying it because they don’t live it themselves, but it still could be a good insight (a lesson they learned the hard way but never found the strength to recover from). This type of advice is worth considering (with a little salt 🧂).
Some pieces of “advice” are just broken rules waited to be tested and improved.
No matter what advice we may receive, it’s still up to us to act on it. Good advice is useless if it’s not taken. Pause and think things through. What kind of life do you want? What kind of person do you want to be?
Remember— “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” — Epictetus
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #932
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