“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.”Thomas Merton
I think personal freedom most of us want—the flexibility to do whatever we want when we want it—isn’t what truly gives us freedom.
True freedom is a balance between flexibility to create the life you want, and constraint and challenge to do so by our own hands rather than something given or easily bought.
Without challenge, life feels dull. Too much challenge (at once) and life becomes unbearable. Personal freedom lies within those boundaries.
This plays out on the micro-level of life as much as the macro.
I love reading and I think I want an infinite amount of time to read, but I’d probably burn myself out if that’s all I did.
I love traveling, but if all I did was travel I would eventually feel like a ragdoll.
I desire more wealth, but if all I did was work I would have no life outside of work.
Like everything in life, too much of anything has diminishing returns and becomes harmful. Absolute freedom leads us to Netflix in chill our way to oblivion. it’s the equivalent of having a diet of only eating ice cream. Not only is this harmful, but its also increasingly satisfying.
All this to say, that a balanced life is more than just work, or more than just your art, or more than just your friends or just your family.
A life in balance is all these things and more. Failure needs success. Loneliness needs love. Money needs a purpose. Happiness needs contentment. (Yin needs Yang.) And vice versa.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #921