“Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also.”Marcus Aurelius
“Most of our assumptions have outlived their uselessness.”Marshall McLuhan
I’ve never had a good experience by making a decision based on an assumption. Assumptions are guesses, backed only by our own wish for how things should be.
Assumptions are lazy decisions, or better yet, non-decisions. They are subtle and get us into more trouble than in many ways:
“I assumed you emailed them already.”
“Oh, I assumed you would go to the store to pick up what we needed.”
“I assumed you wouldn’t mind / I assumed you wouldn’t care. /I assumed you already knew.”
And it’s not just assumptions we have about others but assumptions we have about ourselves:
“I’m not confident enough to ask her/him out on a date.”
“I’m too old to learn a new language.”
“I’m too poor to start my own company.”
“I’m not smart enough / talented enough / pretty enough / brave enough … etc.”
But just because we assume something, doesn’t make it the truth. In fact, it’s likely the opposite that’s true.
If you think you can’t do something, there’s only one way to find out for sure —
Experiment. Give it the proper time to make sure. Spend a weekend testing one assumption. Go for a full week. Try a month. Make sure. Because otherwise, you are living your life by jumping from one guess to the next.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #915