“Plant and your spouse plants with you; weed and you weed alone.” — Jean-Jacques Rousseau
“My fake plants died because I did not pretend to water them.” — Mitch Hedberg
I was never really a plant guy until I met Gabriella (now my fiancée). I thought indoor plants were pleasing, but I doubt even one thought crossed my mind about buying a plant for myself. That’s one of the subtle ways having a significant other can change you. You start picking up some of their interests and tastes, and vice versa. That’s why when you look at a couple who have been together for a long time look and wear almost identical clothing.
We pick up the habits, idiosyncrasies, style, speech, likes, and dislikes and characters of the people around us. This happens whether or not we are trying too.
If your older brother likes Led Zeppelin, you’ll (eventually) like Led Zeppelin too.
If your friends like to drink often, if you want to hang out with them, you’ll likely drink often too.
If your parents have anger problems, you’ll likely have problems too.
These aren’t 100% definitive statements. Just because you’re significant other likes Metal bands doesn’t *always* mean you will. We all have our own things that are uniquely ours. But when you are surrounded by something, the natural inclination is to be pulled by that something. Good or bad. Parents that worry about everything is a gravitational force that pulls on your own perspectives. Just as parents that are smart with money will subtly change how you handle your own money.
There will be times in your life when you find yourself in situations or habits and mannerisms you don’t like about yourself. For example, maybe you want to eat more healthy foods and exercise more frequently, but you’ve got in the bad habit of eating whatever garbage you have laying around the house or the bad habit of getting off work and vegging out in front of the TV until 1 AM.
When you find yourself in circumstances or bad habits you don’t like, it’s time to repot yourself.
Repot? No, I don’t mean buy more weed. (Hey-o!)
I mean repot like you do for plants.
There comes a time in a plant’s life where they’ve grown too big for their pot. Their root system becomes crowded and can start to degrade and eventually die because it doesn’t have the room to get to the nutrients it needs. Sometimes plants need to be repotted because their in the wrong pot too. Poor or old soil is another reason why a plant may need to be repotted, which can also lead to damaging the plant. (Welcome to my new plant-based blog, where I only write blog posts about plants.) So you need to dig up the plant, break up its root ball to give it more breathing room to grow, and plant it in a new, slightly larger pot.
We need the same thing.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over again, you’re gonna eventually get stuck.
There will be times you get in a rut or when your habits—which started out helpful—are now actually harmful and holding you back. It’s good to break the routine every so often and try new things.
No, I’m not telling you to dye your hair pink, move across the country, or break up with your friends. (Do that if you want, but don’t say you got the idea from me!) Rather, I suggesting to try something you normally don’t do or even actively dislike doing.
Break things up. If you dislike reading (or think you are bad at it) then try reading every day for a week. If all you do is read, try having a conversation with friends over the phone. Try talking to one new person on social media a week. If all you do is lay around and watch YouTube or TicTok, try banning the apps for a week. You can also go back to them next week if you must. Disrupt your routine. Repot yourself.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #914