“First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.”Epictetus
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”Henry David Thoreau
I think deep down there’s a part of me that wants to fail. (And I imagine I’m not alone in this sentiment.) Of course, I want to succeed. I want to create meaningful work. I want to experience life to the utmost. I want to make enough money to add fuel to my creativity.
But there’s a part of me that doesn’t. Let’s call him Jerry.
Jerry wants things to stay the same. Jerry is lazy and doesn’t care about the future. All he care’s about is immediate pleasures. Jerry wants his gallon of ice cream. Jerry wants me to fail because Jerry (and all the Jerry’s I’ve run across in life) thinks failure is all I’m good for. But Jerry wants what jerry wants, not what I want.
We often push so hard to be who we want to be. We work late hours. We do what others don’t. All for our inner Jerry’s to grab the wheel and crash the car. It’s not Jerry’s fault. Jerry is Jerry. The fault is my own. We let our inner enemy, our resistance, our past failures, and fears drive us, we are taking our hands off the wheel of our dreams and desires.
- Anger can get you far, but it won’t make you any happier.
- Fear can motivate, but it usually just diminishes instead.
- Failure (and the fear of failure) keeps us locked and stuck in place.
- Envy separates us from what opportunity and good fortune we have within our own circumstances and journey.
- Worry and apathy keeps us from being alive.
- Resentment rots.
- Anxiety is the embodiment of FOMO and convincing ourselves we aren’t good enough.
We are good enough. Maybe we aren’t in an ideal situation we’d like to be, but who really is? We are good enough to use what we have to create something better. And enjoy what we have while also striving for improvement.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #833