“Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up.”Anne Lamott
I think we are all, in some shape or form, looking for a magic pill that will finally fix us. A quick releasing capsule washed down with a glass of water to fix our skin problems. Or to fix our confidence (or lack thereof). Or to fix our gut. Or to fix our financial meltdown.
We feel as though something — something we can’t quite put our finger on — is holding us back from a better life, a better version of ourselves. It’s likely we are not even looking for a quick dose of magic. (Although if you can do it by 5pm that would be splendid thanks.) What we want is certainty. We want to know it’s possible to change. We want to know if we are doing the right thing at the right time.
But is there a right thing? Sure, we have a good sense of what’s right and wrong. But what about when something that’s right for me ends up bad for you (or vice versa)? What happens when someone else gets the job you wanted? They’re in a good place, but are you?
It’s often the case that bad things that happen to us eventually become good over time with a little more perspective. For example, you’re lost in heartache and pain over a breakup, but a few years later you meet the love of your life. Or maybe you are in pain over a breakup and you channel that pain into a work of art, like an emotionally moving song. Would you have come up with that idea if you hadn’t been through that stressful period? Who’s to say.
Hard moments can be soul-crushing. But they can also be a positive forcing function to becoming better versions of ourselves. Good things — things we think are good for us — can just as easily become un-beneficial. In, the end even the best of us are still just figuring things out as we go.
All we can really do is life. We can love like we want to be loved. We can learn from dumb things we inevitably do and grow from our decisions. We can surround ourselves with knowledge and people who are looking out for us. We can think bigger than ourselves. And as long as we get back up when we fall, we can find a way forward. It might not be quick, but it is forward.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #815