“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”Anaïs Nin
One of the big regrets of the dying you hear about is working too much. This makes sense to me. If I spend 99.9% of my time working, (hopefully) building wealth but ignore or don’t give time to the people I love, then what was the point of working for?
The other big regret that I forget about, or perhaps I avoid because it’s uncomfortable, is conforming:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
The courage to live true to myself.
How often in life do we do the exact opposite of this?
It takes courage to do the unexpected. Not only do you have to face your own fears, but you also have to face the fears of the people around you, who are usually trying to keep you safe. But safety is rarely assured in life. Sometimes, playing it safe is the riskiest thing we can do. But stepping out on a limb and becoming your own person is also potentially risky.
Sometimes, playing it safe is the riskiest thing we can do.
There’s always a chance that doing something risky will blow up in your face. The balance between how much we play it safe, and how much we take chances is unique to each of us, but the big thing we want to avoid is complacency.
Complacency is playing it safe because you are scared and you don’t believe that you can do it (whatever it is). It’s wanting things to stay the same out of fear of everything going downhill if things change. ‘Stick to the status quo.’
The problem is, the status quo is a lie. The status quo is just the status quo that you know and are surrounded by.
Ultimately, we have to decide what kind of life we want to live and go do it. Otherwise, someone else (who might not have our best interests in mind) will decide for us. Otherwise, we keep making the same old mistakes, falling for the same old traps and patterns.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #785