Everyone wants to be heard. Whether in person or online, we all want our voice to matter, our ideas to be known. But how?
Speaking louder doesn’t do it. Speaking more doesn’t do it either. When you try to raise your voice (join new social platforms to post your content, comment on everything, speak first, talk over etc), so does everyone else. It’s like a school cafeteria — the volume of the room increases.
In order to be heard, we must do the opposite: listen well.
Listening is your window into engaging conversation and true connections. It’s a sign that you care about what they are saying. By caring about the thoughts and ideas of others, others begin to care about what you have to say too.
You can’t fake listening — it shows in your eyes.
“Listening is active. At its most basic level, it’s about focus, paying attention.”Simon Sinek
Most people are terrible listeners. They look away or at their phones when you are talking to them. But I’m not here to judge, just highlight. If you can learn to become an excellent listener, then you give the feeling of being heard to those around you.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #757