“The best advice comes from people who don’t give advice.”Matthew McConaughey
Unsolicited advice always shoots through one ear and out the other without the slightest remorse.
The best advice given is the advice asked for.
The problem is we are too stubborn and obvious to ask for it. We’d rather go down with the ship then tell others our ship is leaking.
Some days I feel like half my problems would dissipate if I asked the right person for some advice. (The right person being the one who has experience a similar problem or knows someone who has)
So how do we give advice to someone too stubborn to take it? and how do we ask for advice when we really need it instead of holding our breath trying to solve our problems ourselves?
We do it subtly and from a place of honesty and trust.
When it comes to giving advice, we have to meet people where they are. Sometimes, that means being there for them when they need help and they are struggling. We have to wait for them to be ready for help. This starts by simply saying that you are there them if they need any help or guidance. Open up the kimono first — show them what you are struggling with. Vulnerability is relatability. And don’t forget to lead by example.
How do we ask advice when we need it ourselves?
First, find someone who has been through something similar to what you are going through. And if you can’t find that, then the next best thing is to seek advice from someone you know that you admire.
There’s no shame in asking for help. In fact, being vulnerable and seeking council will make the person like you and want to help you even more. Again, vulnerability is relatability.
If you feel like you’ve got no one around you that can help, hit the books. Seek the wisdom and insights from people of today and from history who’ve experienced life in its fullest spectrum. Books, videos, courses, podcast… half the battle is being aware of that fact that you could use some advice, from there, finding the advice will come much more easily. If that doesn’t work, maybe you’re the one who will find an answer and help others from your insights.
And when in doubt, seek a professional. (Verses some random person like me, with a blog.)
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #718