One of the areas that can bring us trouble in life is assumptions. When we assume that someone knows something we know, or that they believe / think / understand something in a particular way, it usually bite us in the *ss.
The problems arise through lack of communication and miscommunication.
We are not the center of the Universe, but we are the center of our life. And because we have a natural bias towards seeing thing through the lens of our perspectives, believes, knowledge and circumstances. Because I know something, it’s easy to assume that that information / insight is known or even obvious to everyone else, but this isn’t true. As far as I know, people can’t read our minds. Even our significant others and friends don’t always know what we are thinking. It’s like we make agreements with others in our mind (or have conversations with others) without them knowing it.
In my past, anytime I’ve made an assumption around an unspoken agreement, I’ve regretted it. And it’s often not just me making assumptions, but both parties making assumptions and neither of us really knowing what the other is saying.
Clear and upfront communication goes above and beyond to create impactful relationships in our lives.
Here’s a great place to start with your family, friends and coworkers:
- Clarifying your intentions with others.
- Share your thoughts, ideas and goals.
- Ask and communicate with others for clarification and their intentions.
- Make sure that you are both on the same page, instead of each person on two different imaginary pages.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
Daily Blog #683