“It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them.”Ralph Waldo Emerson
This is totally lame.
I know this is lame.
I’m a lame-wad for writing it.
I really miss the days of goofing off and hanging out with my friends in high school.
It seems like the usual consensus for most people is they disliked high school but loved college.
I’m an anomaly there. I commuted to a local college and hated it, and then switched to another college that I found intellectually disappointing and then — unfortunately — injured my neck in a extremely bad way. Suffice it to say, it wasn’t an amazing experience. But not all for nothing.
Negative experience teach you just as much as (if not more than) positive experiences do.
My negative experiences taught me valuable lessons that have made me into I am today. For example, I don’t know if I would be into health and wellness as much as I am right now if it was for the cold, hard lesson of an injury to teach me the value of knowing about the body and how to treat it right.
I’ve also become more in tune with who I am and what I want in life. I know when things are off and can proactively spot them and adjust, versus ignoring them or pushing through the suck and leading to negative outcomes to contend with.
I bring up my longing for “the good ol’ days” of high-school because it preemptively highlights some warning signs are flashing (danger Will Robinson).
I’m not putting in enough time and energy into cultivating my friends and community. I don’t feel isolated, but I do feel like I could be doing better in this arena.
If I were to deconstruct what I valued about high-school (without knowing it at the time) it would be —
- Conversations around interests / new things
- Play and movement
- Growing up with friends
- Jokes — lots of jokes.
Now, the question is, how can I begin to incorporate these more into my life?
And — of course — I’m going to start by reading a few books on the subject 😝:
- Friend of a Friend… by David Burkus
- Never Eat Alone by Keith Farrazzi
- Your Network is Your Net Worth by Porter Gale
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
Daily Blog #609