One of the side-effects of “you are the sum of the five people you surround yourself the most” is catching emotions of the other people around you. If everyone around you is frustrated or angry, you’ll tend to also feel angry. Or, at least agitated by the fact that everyone is angry around you. Even if one person near us happens to be angry, we tend to catch their anger like a bad cold. That’s right folks. Emotions are contagious. And if you are empathetic — meaning, you have a keen tune to other people’s emotions around you — you’re even likely to catch something.
Now, this can be good and bad. Surround yourself with five negative, angry or complaintive people, and you’ll have a hard time resisting the party (and if you do you’ll be exhausted from all the energy you burned attempting too). But surround yourself with energetic, vibrant and people focused on possibility, you’ll start feeling that way too. I’ve got a friend, let’s call him Steve Pumpernickel. Every time Steve and I meet up, he’s practically bouncing off the ceiling with energy. And I love it. I want to absorb it via osmosis. (Too weird?) That’s not the reason I hang out with him, but it’s certainly a reason why I want to hang out with him more.
There’s often a lot we want out of life. Dreams and desires, skills and traits we’d like to create. And sometimes if feels like no matter what we do, we just can’t seem to get there. This is true. Doing is only half the job. The other half is who we surround ourselves with. We need a great team and community to elevate us (and them) to the next level (whatever that is). Surround yourself with great people doing great things, and you too will also do great things.
Clubs, Start a Podcast, Meetups.
Gain through influence from others — books, podcasts, videos, courses, etc
Focus less on spending the least amount of time with negative people, focus more on spending as much time with great people.
Last thought. You could go the extra mile and lead people with your emotions too. It takes a lot of time and energy, but you can be the change that others around you need. This won’t be easy, of course. And it’s not your battle at the end of the day. They ultimately have to decide if they are going to do something about their negative emotions, and you can show them through sheer will that the positive emotions can do to create meaning in life. And if they don’t do anything, that’s their loss.
At the very least, we always have the power to change ourselves.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
Daily Blog #603