The only things we are entitled to are:
- Our problems
- Our actions (or put another way, our right to change)
- And our freedom (of speech, beliefs… at least in the US)
Everything else must be earned.
Let’s start with the last and most important. In the US, we are entitled to freedom, but that doesn’t diminish the effort and resistance from those who have fought for us to have our freedom. People laid down their lives for us, we should do our part to remember and respect that.
I”m a white dude in his late twenties, living in America. This is my baseline — I didn’t choose any of this. Compared to the rest of the world (and the subtle / not-so-subtle persecution other people have to deal with) — I’ve got it made in the shade.
Everything on top of that, any financial, work, relationship, mindset, time-mismanagement, bad habit, setbacks and injuries are mine to own.
To fix my problems, to create a meaningful life, I’ve got to own it.
There’s no way forward but to own it.
That also secondarily includes everyone’s else problems that I surround myself with too. For example, if my good friend is in debt, I’m secondarily also in debt to his / her mindset and choices. Their problems are theirs to own, but by the very nature of being around them makes them effect me too. Just like on an airplane, in case of an emergency, you are supposed to put on your air mask first. The problems of the people around me shouldn’t come before my own.
I have the right to solve my own problems. It’s a responsibility, but also a privilege. We get the opportunity to change our circumstances and tell our own story through our trials and triumphs.
- Did your parents pay for your college education?
- Did your parents buy you a car?
- Is your health not great?
- Did your startup fail?
- Are you talking more than your walking?
No one owes us anything. Generosity is a gift, but not assured, either. The choice we continuously have to make in life when setbacks and bad things inevitably happen is either:
A. We don’t accept it, we dwell on it and use it as an excuse to stay stuck where we are, or
B. We own it, and go to work, just like all the greatest people of today and yesterday have done.
Own it and get to work.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
Daily Blog #589