There are many times where we try so hard to fit a square peg in a round hole.
At least I’m guilty of it.
I’ll beat my head against a problem, or loop it over and over in my mind, expecting it to result in something new.
It’s like that old saying goes, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”
That goes for how we think and feel too.
Self-defeating thinking isn’t going to solve Self-defeating thinking.
What we need are better tools.
Tools that match the patterns we go through.
When you have a screw, you use a screw driver. When you have a nail you use a hammer. You can try to use a hammer to beat in a screw, but it’s not going to be as effective. And trying to use a screw driver to push in a nail sounds exhausting.
The next time you are facing a problem, think — “What kind of problem is this? What tool would help me solve this?”
Who has been through something like this before? What did they do?
Who is an expert in this type of area? How can I set up a conversation with them?
What has been written about this? What resources are out there for this problem?
Who can I talk to? (Problems are worse when you keep them to yourself.)
What’s the next thing I can do to start solving this?
Meditation, retreats, rest, journaling, any way to clarify the problem.
Friends, therapy and community.
There’s nothing wrong with a square peg solution. It’s best when dealing with a square hole problem 😉
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
Daily Blog #551