Doing something right for the wrong reason is the same equivalent as doing something wrong for the right reason.
In both cases, we are justifying our actions and trying to convince ourselves to go against our values.
And because we’ve convinced ourselves otherwise, we don’t know what’s good or bad for us.
And we’re good at it too. We think our way into so many things that go against who we want to be.
Maybe you’re miserable at your job but convince yourself into staying because of all the great benefits you’re getting. You live in a constant state of low stress and dis-ease because of it, but you ignore it because of a great paycheck. Perhaps in truth it’s not the benefits that lock you in, but the fear of what’s next if you left?
Maybe you self-sabotage yourself each day, but choosing easy and bad habits instead of doing what you actually want to do, because you fear failure or eating crow. And so our health sucks because we try to eat our way to happiness (hello fat pants my old friend), we binge around round of tv while our passions gather dust, and we do everything, anything except the stuff we wish we were doing.
And so we feel stuck but don’t know why.
We feel unhappy while surrounded by abundance and wealth.
And we feel further away from ourselves, suppressed and apathetic, sometimes angry.
Is this the only reason why we get stuck? No. But it happens to all of us. We’re too close to our own lives in the moment. It is only when we have the opportunity to look back into our past do we see the bigger picture and where we wish we did things differently.
What can we do about it?
Begin to do right things for the right reasons. It might take a couple of tries, but if we listen to our spirits enough – what we want out of life, who we want to be – then we’ll know when the right things are the right things.
It’s also worth noting that the right things don’t always work out, at least not how we expect them to (another type of convincing ourselves how things should go). But that’s okay. Who cares if you fail? At least you lived true to your core values and beliefs.
From there, it just takes the courage to follow that path, one action at a time, and see what wonderful possibilities await.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh W.