Not knowing is the worst part of any unknown situation.
Not knowing when the next paycheck will come in…
Not knowing what’s wrong with your health (if anything is wrong at all or if its all in your head) and not knowing what you can do about it…
Not knowing if you’ve been accepted, rejected, heard…
Not knowing if you are making the right call…
Answers don’t make the problems easier, but they at least give you a mental breath of fresh air and something to act on. The biggest mistake is letting the unknown control or loom over you.
Here’s what I know:
Movement helps, a lot.
Whenever I’m in doubt, I start listing out things I need to do, and I immediately start going down the list. When you don’t know what you need to do, doing something, anything at all that feels like you are progressing towards what you need to do helps. Motion gives you momentum. The more you act, the more likely you’ll be ready to act on what you need as it comes. Just in time action. Anything beyond that, nothing is certain (to anyone, despite what they may say).
Everything will work out.
It might not work out how you expect, nor work out in your favor, but it will work out. Time tends to iron out all wrinkles eventually. Even a tragedy can be a lesson and a jumping off point for your life to go into a new and impactful direction. So remember, when everything sucks, look for the opportunity hidden in the suck.
Worrying about a problem won’t make it go away.
In fact, worrying makes it worse because you begin to dwell on it to the point of all you can think about what’s wrong or what might happen. Worrying about something also hurts you the most. Stressing yourself out isn’t going to give you any new information or insight into the unknown, it will only put you in a less optimal state to handle what comes your way.
When in doubt, pinky out.
Humor, having the ability to (tastefully) laugh under tremendous pressure will keep you sane. You can still be happy when you don’t know all the answers. Happiness doesn’t equate to knowing everything. Happiness is an internal state. If there’s one thing we can learn to control, even a little, it’s our internal mindset. Your life can be on fire and you can still be happy as a cucumber if you don’t let the fire into your mental house. Calmness, coolheadedness, resilience, these are things we can train and master.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh W.