“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new.” — Dan Millman
How much mental energy are you giving to things you can’t change or control?
Focusing all your energy on past mistakes is only draining you from the energy you need to build the new. Find something that can slap yourself out of mental and emotional states that are making you feel helpless and stuck.
No amount of worrying is going to make it better and less worry-ful. We could worry ourselves into oblivion and there would still be room for more. Same with anxiety, or self-doubt, or anger or emotionlessness.
Don’t focus on who you should be, who you wish you would be, who you can’t seem to be, rather focus on the next action that will creating a little bit of sunshine and meaning within the person you ARE right now.
The nice thing about the past is that we are building it this very moment, as each second ticks behind us. This gives us the opportunity to put our past-self and mistakes behind us — no matter how close to the present they were — and work on becoming a little better and a little more like the person we want to be today.
— Josh Waggoner