It’s easy to worry how others think of you. But the majority of the time, they aren’t thinking about you at all, they are wondering or worried about what they are thinking or how they are coming across. (And we’re usually doing the same thing as well)
We are all naturally self-centered because we all live inside our own heads.
To stand out, try the opposite.
Am I coming across as this or that…
Or am I saying the right things…
Or am I being interesting enough…
Don’t think at all. Instead, just be there and listen to what they are saying to you.
Almost everyone can tell the difference between talking at someone, versus talking with someone. While you’re in your head worried about how you are coming across, the other person is noticing that you’re not fully with them and thinking you’re a d bag because you’re not even listening.
The best communicator in the room isn’t the loudest person or smartest or person with the best stories. The best communicator is the person who is the best listener.
STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner