In my mind, there are two big categories of fear:
1. Fear of Life
Jaguar in the jungle. Hateful or abusive relationships. Gun violence.
These are the types of fears should listen too, but sometimes ignore despite our better judgement. We freeze and lock up from gut-turning fear. If you’re in a bad relationship (friend or love) you’ve got to get out. Hoping the problem will go away won’t make It go away. I’m not an expert, find someone who is that can help. This category of fear keeps us safe when we need It.
The second category keeps us safe when we don’t need It.
2. False Fears
Public-effing-speaking. Starting a company. Traveling alone. These are the things that lead to unknown — or potentially worse case — scenarios in our mind. False fears hold us back from the life we want.
Fear of failure
Fear of embarrassment
Fear of winning
Fear of not being enough
Fears from your past. (Even Fear of Life events that still haunt you)
The more we let these types of false fears control our lives, the less confident, creative and capable we will be.
Worrying about what we can’t control needs to end.
Anxiety about what might happen needs to breathed out and released.
False fears are great when we lean into them. They provide us an outlet of change by pushing past them, despite the anxiety they bring. If you lean into the fear of failure, you might fail, or you might succeed. (Which is better than not doing anything, which is failing on its on) And if you do fail, you’ll usually find the fall on your face wasn’t that bad, not as bad as you thought It would be.
The worst moments I’ve lived through have becoming defining moments that have made me into a better me. Boldly pushing past your false fears will make you stronger, better and brighter than you can imagine.
Own your fear.
Practice what scares you.
Fail so many times you enjoy It.
Leaning into fear is immediate feedback on what works and doesn’t.
Our successes will be sweeter knowing the ups and downs we relentlessly pushed through to accomplish a life of meaning and mastery.
Stay BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'” — Eleanor Roosevelt
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.” — Mark Twain
“It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.” — Marcus Aurelius