Gabriella and I recently discussed the idea of becoming Life Coaches, so I removed my stubborn shades I was wearing and asked her to help tame my chaos. (which sounds ironic, but coaching isn’t about having a perfect life and pushing that life onto others; Coaching is helping others ask the right questions that will help them come to the answers they already know.)
Lucky me, I have an incredible companion who was willing to help.
I had priority of mind, but no structure. I had the big goals, but they were pulling me underwater, drowning me.
She divided each of my priorities into there own sections, labeling them from A to J (Important goals desired)
I was only allowed to focus on two letters a day. (Three at most if I was feeling perky) (Attention Limitation)
With each section, there’s a square of block you can fill in once you’ve completed something within that priorities domain (such as write book.) (Progress Dopamine)
I was to report back each night on what I did and my progress to her. (Accountability)
Each priority was something I was already doing, but I was usually trying to do all of them every day (cue insanity). This was less about me starting the day with a city-wide todo list, and more like todos popping up and me giving into the tangents making things harder to finish.
The goal in mind was to be ahead of my creativity, rather than flying by the seat of my pants each day.
When you find your why(s), you should go after them with all that you have and then some. However, dreams can easily become nightmares without the properly defined boundaries to stay in.
Boundaries aren’t restrictions on your art, rather how you create the freedom you seek. They narrow your focus, enabling you to flourish within them. Freedom comes from less, not more.
Think of Netflix as an analogy.
If you have a small get together and say, ‘hey let’s watch something!’
Two hours later…
You’ve spent more time scrolling through the catalog than watching a josh darn movie. Rather, If you had said, ‘Let’s watch a Wes Anderson movie!’ maybe you would be enjoying The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou right now,? Instead of losing your mind.
Less is better.
Boundaries give you fewer options and small circles to master.
Once you master those, then you can elevate your freedom by redefining your focus into bigger and bigger circles.
Stay BOLD, Keep Pursing,
— Josh Waggoner