I’m what you call an ambivert.
I’m a half introvert, half extrovert.
I️ love knowing and connecting with other creatives and people pursuing extraordinary lives, but I️ also just kinda want to stay at home reading most of the time. (…okay, all of the time)
I’m not like a hiding-in-my-sweater-at-a-party kind of introvert, but It take effort for me to go out of my way to go to social events.
Yay a party! Where are your books?
The problem is, if you want to impact others, if you want to build a network of incredible people pursuing big and BOLD things, if you want to build your knowledge, wealth, and tribe you’ve got to connect with others.
Lucky for us, becoming a super connector is a skill.
Life Principle #14: Become a Super Connector
I️ would be willing to bet you know someone who is a Super Connector. They are that guy or gal who you run into around town everywhere and who seems to know everyone.
Heck, they probably do know everyone.
What is a Super Connector?
A Super Connector is someone who connects others in a mutually beneficial way. Not only do they make great friends themselves — lovable, charismatic, genuine, interested… — they also life matchmakers. They’re Hitch with or without the romantic elements. (Maybe romance is what you’re looking for, a super connector would be able to help!)
Super connecting is a lot like New York City Subways or London Tubes. You meet someone lost on their way, and you point them to the right connections. You don’t know there exact destination, but you can help them head in the right direction.
Simply put, a super connector knows what you want, and can connect you with someone who can help you. Need some tips on email marketing? he know’s a guy. Looking for a new job? She’s got your back.
A Super Connector loves to help others and loves to connect you to others needs.
A great network is essential for a Renaissance Life.
When setbacks happen (and they will), who are you going to call? When you need advice on work, when you are looking to increase your income, when you’re looking for a great vacation spot — A healthy network can give you that.
The millionaires and billionaires of the world play by a different rulebook. The self-made billionaires got they way from who they know, and what they know.
So how do we start becoming a super connector? How can we make It a daily habit?
1. Be friendly:
Don’t just be friendly to the people you know who can benefit you! Be a friendly person. Smile, be genuine. Talk to anyone and everyone you meet. A super connector doesn’t hold back on who they do or do not talk to.
2. Go Deep:
You’ve got to care. You’ve got to genuine care about the other person’s job, life, worries, dreams, and goals. If you don’t go deep, you’re not really making true connections, you’re just adding up numbers on a followers count. Go deep. Know their names, their hobbies and pursuits.
3. Give Give Give:
Give and expect nothing in return. Connecting isn’t about taking. Receiving will come naturally. Just from the sheer fact that you’re being friendly, going deep and giving without expectations will set you up from them remember you and what you did for them.
Go out of your way to help others. Connect them to ideas, knowledge, and people. A Super Connector connects — so start connecting.
Vow to reach out to at least one person a week to connect with them. If you see the opportunity to help them or connect them along their way do It! Who knows where It will take you!
5. Start an Interview Podcast:
This is one of the reasons I️ started the Renaissance Life show. I️ wanted to talk and connect with creatives in all areas of life! People pursuing high performance and mastery in what they do. A podcast is like speed dating without the dating. Even just a dozen or so interviews in and I’ve collaborated on multiple projects with guests.
6. Finally, You’ve Got to Put Your Heart Into It:
You have to 100% believe in helping others for the pure joy and happiness It brings. Wealth and collaboration are nice, but building a network of friends who care about who you are and what you do is what its really about. Care about them, and they’ll care about you.
Stay BOLD, Keep Pursuing,
— Josh Waggoner
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“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.” ― Herman Melville
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown