Asking for Advice

Objectivity is the best part about asking for advice from a trusted connection.

When we are facing down the barrel of a problem (or problemS with a capital Ssssss) we’re usually too close to what’s going on to see the issue for what it is and find opportunities to solve it—without losing our shirt about it.

Asking for help can be scary, mostly because it shows we are vulnerable like everyone else.

You spend all this time fortifying yourself for battle, handling problems by yourself, and steeling your nerves. All the while, you’re on edge and crying on the inside, as your foundation crumbles from all the battles. You wish you had help, but to get it you have to lower your defenses to let help through, leaving you open.

Objective advice allows you to see things for what they are, rather than what you think they are.

It’s an emotionless spark of insight into what’s going on. However emotionless doesn’t mean soulless. Trusted advice has care behind it. It doesn’t come with expectations of what you should do or pity for what you can’t do, rather, it says ‘here’s something you might haven’t seen or thought about the problem.

Advice gives you the chance to find different angles and perspectives on the problem and redefine what you’re dealing with.

A problem isn’t just a problem, it’s amplified by what we think and believe about it.

A negative hopeless problem is a lion roaring on your chest while you lay on the ground yelling, ‘why me?!’

An objective problem is recognizing that the lion is actually the size of an iPhone, and you can pick up the lion by its tiny tail and you can get up off the ground and show that baby phone-sized lion your teeth.

When in doubt, ask a trusted confidant.

How do you know if you can trust someone? Ask yourself, does this persons advice help me, or does it help them / does it make them feel better about themselves?

And when you don’t feel like you have someone to trust, find an expert such as a therapist, or even better, someone who has been through what you’re going through.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1787

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Too Many Yeses

When pursuing multi-disciplines there may come a point when you find yourself saying yes to too many things at once.

When I’m in there, my instinctual thought is ‘I’ve got to do more to be able to do less’.

I’ve got to work harder and longer to be able to get to a place where I can work less.

I’ve got to do more to be more.

I’ve got to do more things because the old ways of doing things aren’t working.

That’s the instinctual way I think most of us go about making choices.

I’ve got to dig this hole deeper to get out of this hole.

However, the opposite that’s true.

We’ve got to do less to make room for more. (Even when our culture and everyone around you tells you to do the opposite)

There are only so many yes’s and no’s you have to give in your life.

I’m still working through this myself, but I think if we let go of the doing — saying yes to everything, or to the things we only like, the more fulfilling and meaningful our lives will be.

Mastery is found in the spaces we deliberately create for ourselves because it’s within those moments, we find who we are and can grow into who we want to be.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1786

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You Can Be Happy

Gratitude is something that can be easily overlooked but can have a significant impact on your life.

At the very least, it’s injecting our being with positivity, kindness, and love, versus our normal day-to-day, go-go-go worry-stress-comparison mind.

Little things become moments of centering. Ah, I’m so grateful for the clouds today.

Gratitude puts us in the present. I’m grateful for my partner, friends, and family.

And it also has a way of ironing out all the bothersome wrinkles in our lives. At least I have a roof over my head, and food to eat.

Instead of dwelling on the negative, we can see what abundance is around us, and what opportunities we have in the future.

Sure, we might not have everything we want or everything we need. But that doesn’t mean we can’t be happy.

Success doesn’t automatically lead to happiness.

Success and happiness are two different goals. They are things we need to pursue simultaneously.

Happiness can happen anytime.

Having a daily gratitude practice helps nudge us into happiness.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1785

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Small Tasks Are Anything But

The power of small task is that they pack a big punch. Stay consistent and deliberate with anything long enough—no matter how small—you’re going to make things happen.

Focusing on our next the action also gives us breathing room. A narrowed focus allows our mind to not dwell on the problems, and instead only on the task ahead.

Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed, I’m focusing too much on all the things I need/want to do, versus prioritizing what’s important and dividing in to the next immediate small task.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1784

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Consistency Builds Trust

Consistency is key to success.

I’ve learned this through daily habits.

There’s a natural ebb and flow when it comes to the quality of our daily habits. But the key is to keep going and strive for high quality.

Maybe today that means only twenty minutes of work. Well, that’s still twenty minutes more than nothing (if you decided to skip today).

Twenty minutes might not seem like a lot (and perhaps it’s not from a granular perspective). But it adds up when looked over a long period. 3 sessions * 20min = 1 hour. 72 sessions * 20 mins = 1 day. You get the idea.

But I’ve also learned the importance of consistency through failure.

I’ve been inconsistent with my podcast and newsletters, mostly because I’m not treating them like a job when I should be. Importantly, the fun is already there. Now I just need to prioritize the work.

Consistency shows others how serious you are.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1783

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Filet Mignon for Babies

Plants need just the right amount of sunlight, just enough water, and the right kind of soil to grow. Not to mention pruning.

Too much sunlight and they die. No water and they die. But give them what they need and there’s no limit to how much they grow.

I’m not a parent (we have a puppy!!), but I️ bet it’s the same with a baby— .. water, dirt, and sunlight 😉

You don’t feed a baby filet mignon, you give I­t­ what i­t­ needs.

But what about ourselves?

We eat potato chips and fast food and wash I­t­ down with sugar water. We stay up late drinking. We mindlessly consume media, argue about political issues we’re 8 degrees away from, and repeat ad nauseam negative things or things we can’t control.

And we do everything possible except what we want:

Following our dreams, building a legacy, being our weird, undiluted selves, and creating connections with people we care for and love.

Living your life on fire 🔥 requires waking up with just the right amount of input (learning, connections, possibility), the right amount of fuel (whole foods, water, enough sleep, play), and the right amount of meaningful action.

That’s how we grow into our own.

The nice thing is we don’t have to do everything at once. We can start with creating one positive change—like drinking a big glass of water upon waking up—and focus all our energy on that until we master I­t­.

One change leads to another, and another, until eventually, you wake up to the life of your dreams.

You Already Know What You Need to Do

“The inspiration you seek is already within you. Be silent and listen.” — Rumi

We seek answers and advice from outside ourselves. Friends, family, and those more experienced in what we are going through. And it’s great to seek out wise counsel, but more often than not—

You already know what you need to do.

Making hard calls is one of the toughest things we have to face.

Do you go with what’s safe, or what’s true for you?

Do you take a leap of faith and put yourself out there, or do you suppress yourself and suffer in silence?

Not making the hard calls is the easiest way to delay them in the short term, but nondecisions ruminate.

They fester and consume your every thought. Consider indecision. By paralyzing yourself from making a decision, or by postponing it again and again, not only do you create unnecessary stress in your life, you end up making the worst decision you can make: doing nothing.

When has sitting on your hands done anything for you? When has not speaking up turned out in your favor?

Every time you make a nondecision, you suffer.

Holding in your emotions.

Doing nothing,

Not speaking up for yourself or others, even though your gut and every fiber of your being is telling you to.

Reluctantly choosing the ‘have to’ path of life, instead of the ‘dream’ path of life.

Intuition is mightier.

Give yourself a moment and listen to what you’re body and soul already know.

You already have the decisions you want and need to make. Not it’s time to do the work and take it to heart with sound footing and action.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1781

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Action and Results

One hundred great ideas are worth nil compared to a good idea executed.

Nobody cares about your ideas, they only care about your actions and results.

The only way to change someone’s mind is to show not tell. You can try to “tell”, but the moment you step out of that narrative yourself and deviate from what you preach, you’ll lose all credibility.

Live by your actions instead of your thoughtful wishes.

The classic example is a doctor who tells you how to be healthy, but smokes cigarettes in the parking lot and looks like they have had one too many fried chicken sandwiches.

People smell disingenuousness a kilometer away.

If you say you are going to do something—do it!

Lead with your actions. Or to put it more brashly—nut up or shut up.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1780

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Prioritize What Matters

What if you could drop everything? What if you could set fire to all your responsibilities, stress and worries?

What would you do then? What would decide to focus?

I’m not trying to get you to burn down every bridge in your life, rather to show you what really matters to you.

When all else fails, when you’re at the lowest of the low, when you feel like you’ve got nothing left to give, what lifts you up?

What are the things you love to do that light a fire behind your eyes? Who makes you feel the most alive?

Making the things we love a daily part of our lives gives us solid ground and piece of mind through the darkest of times.

Without music, writing, dancing, entrepreneurship,and art, I️ think I️ would go crazy. The things we love and cherish matters.

When we invest in who and what we love, we are investing in our happiness and ultimately ourselves.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1779

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Creatives Need to Create

There are only so many things we can do and be in a single day.

We all have only so many hours to give.

The question is, what’s the most relevant actions we can do with our time?

What’s going to help us to get to reaching mastery and a better life? What are the most important things we can do today? Who are you going to be today?

What do you need to do today that will make you satisfied when your head hits the pillow and refreshed when you wake up in the next day?

If there is a voice within you telling, imploring, yelling at you to paint, then you need to make painting a part of your daily life. A painter will never be as happy as he or she can be unless they have painting in their daily life. Can you give 2 hours to painting? 30 minutes?

It’s easy to forget this. We go weeks without writing, or picking up our instrument, while simultaneously think “why am I so miserable and grumpy recently?”

Creatives need to create.

Oh right.

I haven’t been doing thing things I was meant to do.

As difficult as a daily habit may seem— and sometimes is —a life without your passion is even more so. Creative expression is our way out of the hell we something lock ourselves in.

I know, I know. ‘I’m just too busy.’ There’s work and relationships, and money and family and cleaning and laundry and a million others things I have to do and think about first…

Wrong. Passion first. Pursing what you love will make you a better employee, partner, sibling and responsible human.

First, there MUST be you, your canvas and some paint.

This isn’t selfishness, this is maintenance. Without it, you’ll go crazy and drive everyone around you crazy too.

STAY BOLD, Keep Pursuing— Josh Waggoner | Daily Blog #1778

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