Bitterness

Bitterness is like acid.

I­t­ eats away at everything inside you and can leave you not only miserable, but too exhausted to do anything about your misery.

The tricky part about bitterness is it’s not a black and white emotion. I­t­’s a master of disguise and usually wears the mask of another emotion.

Sometimes you feel sad, maybe from how someone treats you, but it’s not until deep reflection and honesty with yourself that you uncover it’s really bitterness with a groucho marx disguise.

With bitterness comes the feeling of wishing an outcome in your life had turned out differently, and ‘if only it could have happened this way’ ‘if only I­t­ could of happened that way’.

The hardest thing about people and the best thing about people is the fact that none of them are you. Everyone is unique, and that’s a great thing. But with uniqueness comes the friction of everyone looking out for themselves first and their tribe second. Maybe you believe someone ignores you or treats you unfairly, but as far as you know, they don’t even know that they did.

The problem with bitterness is that the person feeling bitter is going to be the one who suffers the most damage. Or in other words, if I  feel bitterness towards someone, I’m the one who suffers, not them.

It’s such an easy emotion to keep down too.

The good thing about bitterness is I­t­ can point out things in your life you would like to change. (If you can learn to be aware of it’s existence)

Finding yourself bitter about your friends fit figure or work life or wealth leads you directly towards what you want to improve about yourself.

It also doesn’t have to be something you have to fix about yourself.

When you identify yourself being bitter, replace I­t­ with gratitude of who you are and your unique set of skills and experiences. Having an emotion doesn’t mean you are that emotion.

I like to think of emotions as clothing you can put on and take off. Feeling angry doesn’t necessarily mean your an anger person, you’re just wearing your angry coat. You can just as easily take off your angry coat as you can put on your happy coat. 

 

Stay BOLD, Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

Josh Waggoner