Life Principle #13: Become Your Own Best Friend

Do you know who you spend the most time with?

Trick question!

It’s YOU! (Bet you didn't see that one coming)

It might seem silly to say, but you are around yourself more than anyone your entire life.
If you don’t love who you are, or where your going, you’ve got some work to do.

Life Principle #13: Become Your Own Best Friend

Becoming your own best friend is about being happy with where you are, and excited about where you are going.

The key to becoming your own best friend is knowing why you do things.

Being aware of your basic needs (food, shelter, love). 
Being aware of your desires and goals. 
And being aware of your psychology and upbringing.

Love yourself like a true best friend would.

Best friends tell you what you need to hear, but they never discourage.
Often times our worst enemies are ourselves. We mentally punch ourselves with negativity, anxiety, and comparison.

I would love to gain more muscle, but I shouldn’t hate myself until I do. That’s crazy, and yet it’s easy to fall for that comparison. Not only do we compare ourselves to other people, we compare ourselves to who we could be, or better yet who we /should/ be.

Superficially, we are our own worst critics. You might not like your nose, or body type or wish you looked like so and so from that movie. But we all have those things! Comparison gets you nowhere. 
You may love someone's hair, and hate your own, and they probably love your hair and hate theirs too!

Best friends respect each other.

Respect your time. Respect your passions. Be your weird, unabridged self.

But what if I hate myself?

Hate is such a broad term. We 'hate our lives' but really we just dislike pieces of it. Perhaps your job is making you miserable, or you feel in over your head. Talk it out with someone. Read books about it to find insights. Take small steps each day towards making it better.

Realizing that we all want what we don’t have is a life-changing concept. Because even when we get the things we want, we really just wanted the happy feeling we thought we would get from having it. Happiness comes from loving yourself, not from superficially, or external gains.

Happiness comes from within. (a fortune cookie in the making right there)

Stay BOLD, Keep Pursuing,

— Josh Waggoner

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